Self-isolation is making me realise I hate this fucking house and I regret ever stepping foot in the door

[HateThisHouse]

I've been locked up for 5 days so far.

I hate this house so much. I can hear neighbours on both sides. All the rooms are too small, even the "master" feels too small and cramped. There's a grim smell when we do the laundry. There aren't enough plug sockets.

I've been trying to make it work for a year. Threw money at it, new kitchen, extension, new bathroom, it isn't helping. I hate the house and I hate the area and I should have stood my ground when DP wanted a small house in an affordable area so that we could pay off the mortgage in 20 years instead of 25. I mean for Christ's sake, what was I thinking!?

I just want to throw up and I'm not sure if it's the house or potential corona.

We're supposed to start a family here and then move in 5-7 ish years time when we need better schools etc.

I feel like I'm going to waste my life here hurrying time to go by faster.

Why oh why did I buy this fucking house?

Has anyone else viscerally hated where they bought? What did you do?

Why on earth did you buy it? You've done a lot of work- was none of that to your taste?

BitOfFun

Tenancy was coming to an end. We'd seen 50 houses, give or take. Didn't want to waste money on renting for yet another year. DP and I were at loggerheads - I wanted to buy a more expensive house/better area, he wanted to get as small a mortgage as possible and pay it off asap. He wore me down, not that I am making excuses.

I tried to see the positives in this arsehole of nowhere up-and-coming cheap location, I decorated to my taste within budget constraints, but it's not enough. It hasn't helped.

I realised I was 100 times happier in our rented 1 bedroom apartment in an area I loved than I have been here. I still think of that place as "home".

All this "stuff" hasn't helped. I should have just tried to flip it instead of trying to make it a home, but hind sight is everything, isn't it?

My feelings are magnified by the fact that I can't go outside. I have to be here listening to one neighbour scream at her children and the other neighbour sing along to music all. Bloody. Day. Long.

It will be over soon, honestly.

It does sound like you haven't bonded with the area or the house. I wouldn't be happy with that either. Once the corona scariness has calmed down maybe resolve to find some options location wise which would make you happier and propose them to your DP. Zoopla? To pass the time now constructively.

I became quite depressed.

We moved eventually though, thankfully, so all was well in the end but it was definitely a trying period.

You are me, although I’m not isolated. Sometimes you just have to accept you’ve cocked up and move on. We were about to go on the market but that’s on hold until corona settles down, but then it’s straight on.

Talk to you DP, get on Rightmove and move on.

Yep, just accept you have made a mistake and put a plan into action to get yourself out of there, even if it’s not immediately just having a plan in place will help the mental strain of living in a house you hate, oh and by the way don’t let your DH railroad you into staying because it’s his ‘dream’ no one should live in a house they despise if they have the option of moving, and a loving partner should not be happy living in a house that makes their partner utterly miserable.

Yes, I've been there. Bought a place in a hurry (rising market years ago), and thought it 'would do'. Hated it, even though there was nothing really wrong with it. I never felt at home and started doing loads of overtime to lessen my time in the house. I sold it a year after I bought it.
Now you have identified that you hate your place, make plans to move. Life is too short to spend even a small part of it unhappy.

If you are on self isolation and not actually I’ll use the time to plan. We went to B&Q briefly yesterday and it was busy with older people. I overheard one woman say that because over 70’s May have to isolate they were in there buying paint and plants so they would have something to do. “We ‘ll use the time to paint the house! “she said. 🤣😂🤣 I had said to DH in the car park I bet it is all the pensioners buying paint etc. So I was certainly right in one case. DH has just joined the pensioner group.
I loved their ability to turn something difficult into a positive.

You could do the same. Plan all the things you could do to the house to get it market ready. Then put as much as you can into action. Don’t let DP know yet just saying you are stopping being bored. Then when you can get an estate agent around in a few weeks to value it. Spend time looking for what you want and line up some viewings in a few weeks. Then put it to home that you would like to move before you start a family.

I think you can go out for a walk still?

I am the same bought house when pregnant I didn’t love It thought it was overpriced it’s got the stairs in the living room which I detest, 3 bed detached village location it should be big enough for us and appreciate most people would give their right arm to have something like we have where it is. Feeling under pressure because of the impending baby and the fact that husband really liked it we bought it. Before we even moved in I actually had a dream that I hung myself from the rafters in the double garage that husband loves so much because I was so miserable about it.

four years later I actively despise it as the children are growing it’s clearly not big enough the garden isn’t big enough but we are stuck here with a huge mortgage

The thought of being stuck inside for the next few months with two children is stressing me out no end

Stamp duty.