Sorry about vague title. Didn't quite know what to put.
My dilemma is in need to downsize due to struggling to keep my head above water financially and to get a house I like within my budget And that feel comfortable in I would need to move about 15-20 away from family as the area I live in is expensive (West Country) Or I can stay local and downsize into a crappier version of what I already have which I don't really want to do tbh.
For context I have two older kids 19 & 22 both working and driving with girlfriends living locally. My parents are both still alive but my mum has an illness similar to motor neurone, my father is her carer along with outside help and my brother and I do what we can (we both work full time) but I go in at least once a week for a few hours.
Would it be selfish of me to find a house I love which would be a 30 minute drive from my parents ? And to move my kids away from their jobs friends and gf's. ? I feel torn.