I’ve found ‘the one’. How do I keep the anxiety in check?

[SabaliSabali]

First time buyer here so totally unprepared for the journey ahead and need some advice to keep calm/sane/grounded!

I haven’t actually viewed it yet but after viewing several properties I felt ambivalent about, I decided I probably wouldn’t move for a while but have been keeping one eye on the market when I spotted it. I just have a feeling about it that I haven’t with the dozens I’ve already seen.

I have a viewing booked in but I’m driving myself crazy worrying that someone else will get it first or the vendors will withdraw from the market. I know what will be will be but finding it really hard not to let my anxiety take over.

Anyone relate or has any advice please?

Don't stress about the things you have no control over - go and see it and see what you think. Have you got info on comparables to judge the price and any offer and do you have a mortgage in principle so you can move quickly when needed?

What questions do the photos and description raise? What's the location like? Have a drive past at a couple of different days and times.

Good luck!

Don't do what I see quite a few FTB do. Fall in love with a property, tell the estate agent how much you love it, they screw you for every last penny using every tactic in the book and you bid over asking price, lender does a valuation and it comes back at asking price, you either stump up the shortfall in cash or lose the house.

You can’t possibly know it’s the one until you view it

It’s the location I’ve fallen in love with (quite unique). They’ve already rescheduled the viewing twice which hasn’t helped the anxiety! I’m starting to realise how much could go wrong and just want to see it so I know for sure. Could the delay be a tactic to increase interest? It’s only just gone on.

I've read up on tactics so know not to let them know how much I love it. I’m in a good position as a mostly cash buyer with a MIP already sorted. It’s overpriced when looking at comparable properties but I could comfortably pay quite a bit over the asking but don’t want to pay too much obviously! I feel like everyone will want it just because I do

Exactly what @scholesfan says.

And remember it's a bit like falling in love with someone you've met online - it can be very different face to face.

I know what you mean Sabal ,, I’ve fallen in love with a house that I’ve seen. And hoping nobody else wants it. I’ve booked a second viewing, telling the EA that I have 2 other houses I’m interested in too. I haven’t really, I just love this one, even though it’s too far away, too remote, and too big, but I’m just totally in love with it. And I want it !!!!

Don't build it up in your head when you haven't even seen it! It is a property that you need to look at as an investment - it sounds slightly (with your mention of the location) that you are over-investing in more of a lifestyle-view than a home-view.

Don't assume they are playing games either or second-guess everything you are told.