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Issue with my late DF's neighbour

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Towerofjoyless · 05/08/2019 21:28

My DF passed away suddenly in May, my DSis and I are currently going through the confirmation process (we live in Scotland). DF owned a property and the back garden is in a bit of an overgrown state, with a few trees near the boundary of the garden over the back fence. Last month a neighbour whose garden backs on to DF’s put a very blunt, bordering on rude, note through the door asking that his trees be trimmed and helpfully supplied the details of a local tree surgeon. Neither of us felt in a strong enough position to do anything about it yet. Last week the neighbour who lives over the back came round to speak to my DF about these trees and the neighbour immediate to my DF’s property told him that he had passed away. This guy then took it upon himself to cut back the trees, which in itself would be okay however he butchered these trees right down to the trunks, meaning he either leaned right over the fence, or did the cutting in my dad’s garden itself (we have reason to believe he has trespassed into the garden from something he said to my DSis). He then left the debris, knee-deep, lying in my dad’s garden.

When my DSis was informed of this by the immediate neighbour on a visit to the house yesterday, she went to check it out and found the neighbour from over the back out in his garden. When she spoke to him about it, saying that he should have sought permission and that she wouldn’t have minded him cutting the trees back if he had, he then proceeded to say things to my DSis such as ‘people die all the time, who cares?’ when she informed him she did not feel able yet to alter the garden in any way as she was still very upset. She at this point became very distressed and began to shout at him, telling him he should be clearing the mess he left. He refused to do this.

I have checked the council’s website, which states that while neighbours can cut down trees encroaching on their property, they can only cut to the boundary and must offer the cuttings back to the owner in case they want to dispose of them themselves, neither of which he has done. I feel that he should be called out properly on his actions and held accountable for what he has done, and from what I understand from other neighbours, he has been harassing them with various demands also (one of which resulted in someone taking legal action against him). Would it be worthwhile to either speak to the council or to discuss this with my solicitor? Am not sure how to go about this. This man seemed very sure of his rights and very good at twisting what my DSis was trying to say to him.

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BlueSkiesLies · 05/08/2019 21:36

Would it be worthwhile to either speak to the council or to discuss this with my solicitor?

No. You won’t get any kind of recompense. It will chew you up inside being annoyed about it.

Just clear it up, have the garden sorted and move on with the sale prices and grieving.

ClareIsland · 06/08/2019 09:31

I am sorry for your sudden lost and shocked that someone would deliberately exploit this. Yes he should face some consequences but your emotional health needs to take priority right now - so step away.

You are not yet owners of the house so not sure any legal recourse is possible until probate is granted. Also if you want to sell the property you have to declare any neighbour disputes which will be off putting to buyers. So don’t fall into that trap.

Maybe reframe it to think that he has saved you some money?

cranstonmanor · 06/08/2019 10:58

I'm sorry for your loss. Best not to do anything now. Sell the house and after completion pick up all the dog poo in the neighbourhood and stuff it in his letterbox.

Towerofjoyless · 06/08/2019 13:21

Thanks for your replies. I'm forgetting about the declaration of neighbour disputes, we will likely sell after confirmation is granted so do need to take this into consideration. I've cooled off a bit today and am taking on board your comments (the dog poo one made me laugh!). I'm also consoling myself that in the not too distant future, my dads house will be sold and I can use its proceeds to help give my kids a better life, while he will always be a cunt.

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Wingedharpy · 07/08/2019 00:59

Sell the house to hippies with 18 children, 3 trampolines and a windchime collection.
Sorry for your loss.

Towerofjoyless · 07/08/2019 07:55

If only, Wingedharpy! I think I could happily sell to someone who seems like as big an arsehole as he is, if it weren't for my DFs other lovely neighbours 😂

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whataboutbob · 07/08/2019 15:01

My dad died 2 1/2 years ago after a long illness involving amongst other things me being responsible for the upkeep of his home. I understand how hurtful this mans behaviour must be. I would advise not getting entangled in any dealings with him if possible. He sounds like a thoroughly nasty piece of work. You and your sister are mourning and any battle would probably be unequal and a drain on your emotional resources. Give him a swerve, if he forces contact try and stay business. like and neutral.

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