Is this rude?

[readitandwept]

Posting a note through my downstairs neighbours door asking her if she could turn her telly down slightly?

I can hear it under my bedroom every night and it's not mega loud, but I can hear it. God knows what it is, but there's screaming and laughing and I've resorted to ear plugs, which aren't comfortable. It was still going at 3.30 the other morning when I woke for the toilet. I'm worried I'm just becoming irritable as I get older and can't expect to fall asleep in 100% silence?

We say hello in passing, by that's it.

Your just asking for what you want. Better than te english way of silently fuming.
Not rude at all. It might not be what she wants to hear, but that doesn’t make it rude.

It would be better to pluck up the courage to discuss it with her face to face, if you can. It’s so difficult to get the tone right with written communication.

There have been a few nights I've nearly bounced out of bed and flew down the stairs and I think that is when my tone might come across badly. Tonight is feeling like one of those nights

I would have a quiet word with her on person rather than putting a letter through her letter box. She probably doesn't realise how loud her TV is or she maybe falling asleep in front of it.

You could ask her to come and listen from yours, so that she can judge for herself?

Go round and ask politely. Say it might just be thin walls. I think time is key here - what's reasonable at 9pm for tv noise isn't reasonable at midnight. If that doesnt work...play TV loudly back whenever she does.

That's really frustrating. There's nothing worse! I totally understand & you should be able to sleep in your own home without a TV from another house keeping you awake.

I would try to do it personally & gently at a time when it's not happening so you can word what you need to say more delicately.
She might not realise that it's loud.

If you really can't then put a note through, worded nicely & assume she's completely unaware. It would be better to speak to her, that way you'll no doubt have reassurance there & then that she'll be more conscious of it.

Get one of those universal remotes. Sneak up outside neighbours window and turn telly off 😀

No, she's rude.

Does she have any hearing problems. My dad doesn't have any (or so he says) but his telly is so loud I turn it down to my normal sound level he complains it is too quiet, also some channels are louder than others, perhaps she watches one of these and doesn't register how loud it is.

@AriadneesWeb

Unlikely. She's in a 2nd floor flat.