First time poster, long time lurker.
I'm in a semi-detached, with toddler twins. When we bought the house (13 years ago), it came with a large extension running along the back of the house. It goes right up to the boundary with the house next door, although the architects assure me that it's 100% on my side.
It's no longer fit for purpose, and we have a building warrant to replace it with an extension. This will be exactly the same size as the current one, but will extend out further from the house by about a metre. The issue is that the neighbour's fence runs along the boundary.
I'm sure they're reasonable people, but I suffer terribly with anxiety (medicated) and husband is like a bull in a china shop. I work shifts so rarely see them. How do I go about telling them I need to remove a small section? This may be a trivial post, but it's really upsetting me. I grew up in a street with horrible, violent neighbours and I'm terrified that this is going to end up as a feud.
We're in Scotland, so party wall etc doesn't apply. What's the easiest way of bringing up the topic? At the end of the day, I know I'm 100% legally entitled to build in that space, but I don't want to cause bad blood.