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800msprint · 07/07/2019 07:39

Am having terrible terrible problems with anxiety and deciding what to do it's become completely overwhelming.

An opportunity has come up to move back to London. I've missed it so much since moving but am also downright terrified. All the upheaval and stress of getting DS settled in a school, effectively starting again in a place. The hassle of London and kids. General guilt of bringing up kids in London when everyone else is moving out to the countryside. No support network.

I knew thinking maybe it would be better to move further out to proper countryside but I don't know where. My parents don't live where I grew up anymore. My husband's family are far away from my parents. And then we wouldn't see much of DH.

I've not thrived in the commuterbelt but DS is happy in school and we know a few people now.
We could move a little way over but would still have to uproot from schools. Would it be worth it.

What to do? I feel very very anxious about moving back and yet it's what I've missed for years. I wish DH wasn't tied to London so much but he is for now at least.

Feel very under pressure to go now or not as it's coming to end of the year. DH can't bear the indecision anymore so says we're going!

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800msprint · 07/07/2019 07:41

I have to say as well I love the countryside. I would love to live in proper countryside but with easy access to a lovely city or big attraction. Just our circumstances right now mean DH tied to having to be in London most days.

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800msprint · 07/07/2019 07:43

I grew up rurally and wanted that for my kids but I'm struggling in commuterville and with no support network anyway now I think I'd struggle anywhere!

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 07/07/2019 07:44

How do you mean you haven’t thrived in the commuter belt- I would think that would be the best compromise.
Personally I love living 20mins into central London, I think In a big city there’s more for children to do and greater opportunities.

800msprint · 07/07/2019 08:01

I've just never felt at home here. It feels like not quite countryside but not the city. I do feel better here than I did originally though.

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Magstermay · 07/07/2019 08:51

I would go and look at some houses in London and see how you feel when you’re there. Sounds like you’re stuck in the middle at the mo of not being in London but not in the countryside either.
I wouldn’t worry about guilt of being brought up in an amazing city, as long as you will be able to get him into a decent school.

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