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Moving regret

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Ggrrr · 01/06/2019 14:45

Just over a year ago I moved from my 2 bed flat to a detached 2 bed bungalow which I thought would be a dream come true. In the past few weeks the realization that it's the worst thing I have done in my life has hit me and I now feel sick to my stomach.
When I purchased my flat in 2008 it needed everything doing to it, luckily I was in a position that I did everything at once (full electrics, plumbing, plastering) over a course of a year, it was a showroom property when I finished. My mortgage payments were nothing, the location perfect, it was big, spacious & South facing, the only reason I wanted to move on was because I didn't like that it was Leasehold and didn't like the maintenance company that run it.
The bungalow is everything you would want it to be detached, Freehold, massive driveway, good size garden, spacious rooms. The problems are it's in the middle of nowhere so no direct access to shops, trains, buses ect. Everything needs updating, I'm not afraid of hard work but there's significantly more money involved to refurbish this bungalow than what my flat was. I'm in debt as I had to borrow a significant lump sum from my parents to get me over the finish line as the banks would only lend me a certain amount.
But the worst part of all is the neighbour that I have next door now is a complete scumbag. According to the other neighbours he got a big pay out for an accident & purchased his house outright, he doesn't work, just sits in doors all day every day (which I don't care about) however he seems to think is a brilliant idea to play terrible banging music a full volume from 2am until 7am at the weekends.
I'm so unhappy and absolutely gutted that I've left my beautiful, spacious, clean, cheap, modern flat and that I'm now stuck with debt on a money pit property which I hate living in, I genuinely fear weekends now.
I wish I could go back in time and talk myself out of making a massive mistake Sad
Has anyone else had a similar experience? I just don't know what to do.

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ComeBackBarack · 01/06/2019 14:51

Move....

Oliversmumsarmy · 01/06/2019 14:56

Give it a good clean.

Buy a load of flowers to dot around the place, a few nice rugs and get the agents in.

Sounds like a dream to someone.

You never know you might have made a little profit

megrichardson · 01/06/2019 14:59

Something similar happened to me once. I agree with the others: move.

Ggrrr · 01/06/2019 15:06

That's the plan for me now... So much for a forever home. In your situation how long did you stay before you moved on?

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Ilovemylabrador · 01/06/2019 15:08

Move

JoJoSM2 · 01/06/2019 15:14

Hasn't happened to me but absolutely no point staying another month or year or any length of time.

PompeyBez · 01/06/2019 15:24

If it's making you unhappy you should move. I could understand hanging on if the work that needs doing was affordable now and it would add value, but from what you say it could take years. No point staying and making yourself miserable.

MrsBobDylan · 01/06/2019 15:39

Have you hade any complaints about the neighbour's noise? I only ask as you have to declare any neighbour disputes when selling and that may devalue your property.

Other than that I would just sell it on as recoup your losses.

megrichardson · 01/06/2019 15:44

@ggrrr I stayed for over a year, hoping that the vile neighbour would die move on, but when it became clear she was going nowhere, that's when I moved. You have my profound sympathies, it's terrible how a place which should be your haven and your protection can be violated by a random stranger living a few feet away from you.

blue25 · 01/06/2019 15:45

Move. I couldn't live with a neighbour like that. The problem is you never know what your next neighbours will be like. Moving is always a risk and you may end up in an even worse situation next time.

BubblesBuddy · 01/06/2019 15:46

I’m not sure if you can do this but..... all the bungalows around me get planning permission to become new houses. You should think of it as a lovely plot of land for a house. Investigate planning and see what you could get. Local agents might then advise on a selling price when it gets pp. That way someone else will demolish it and enjoy it afterwards!

AJPTaylor · 01/06/2019 15:59

Make up a reason, new job etc and just put the house on the market. See what happens.

Ilikewinter · 01/06/2019 16:05

We bought our dream house, brand new 3 bed double fronted detached, massive garden, perfect....except its was in a 'regeneration' area and we bought into the pile of crap they sold us....we lasted 2.5 years before we sold. Lots of houses were burgled, we had motorbike stolen, drug dealing on street corner, drug runners on mopeds up and down street, loud parties from estate opposite, gangs of louts running through the back gardens etc etc. We broke even on our sale and I felt sorry to the young couple we sold to but the relief on moving day was immense.

Our new house is smaller but the area is really nice and I feel safe leaving my house! I would sell up and move asap if you can.

TokyoSushi · 01/06/2019 16:11

Just move. I stayed in an unhappy home (neighbours) for 5 years. I'm now in my dream home and so much happier and more relaxed, goodness knows why I put up with it for so long!

Monday55 · 01/06/2019 16:31

Report the noise to the council. As no one is allowed to make certain amount of noise between 11pm and 7am without asking their neighbours at least.

Ggrrr · 01/06/2019 17:03

Trouble is if I report it, it then goes on record for when I want to sell up.

I can't sell up just yet as I have to pay my parents back. On the plus side I got the property relatively cheap considering the area (less the offending neighbour) a full make over as cheaply as possible and I should at least break even.

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Bungalowblues · 01/06/2019 17:10

I have been exactly where you are OP so know how you feel.

we bought a lovely 3 bed detached bungalow in a picturesque village. Big gardens front and back. Ticked every box. The reality was very different from the dream. As time went on it emerged that more and more needed doing to the property that would cost a fortune. It was freezing in the winter and too hot in the summer (lots of windows). With the cost of oil fluctuating so much it cost a fortune to heat in the winter. Some neighbours were nice but the majority were small minded been-here-50-years types. Our immediate neighbour was horrible and we were out in the middle of no where. I felt lonely and isolated, we got into debt and I felt like I'd made the biggest mistake of my life. We spent over 3 years there.

Luckily we sold recently, moved into a rented in town and put the money in the bank until we get rid of the debt and are ready to buy again. I couldn't be happier! I love the vibe in town, the diversity of different people and the fact that things are happening. Best decision we ever made.

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