@RosaWaiting it was quite nice before DS! I had a long commute to work and did long hours. Work was intense and I was knackered at the weekends. The weekends were spent pottering, jobs on the smalll holding, lovely walks and farmers markets.
I went on maternity leave when I had DS .... I was v different from the people in the community - different culture, language etc. It was really difficult to break into baby groups and it felt very cliquey and I was lonely. partner was at work for long hours. We sold up and moved to the small city near work and love it. It is much more diverse, we don’t have to drive everywhere and there are parks, swimming pools, libraries etc which make life with small children much easier!