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Housing assessment single mum with two kids

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Mykidsaremypriority · 09/05/2019 17:58

Hi, I need your views on this for help and guidance if anyone has come to a similar situation before.
I’m a single mum with two kids, one being a baby.
the father of my baby asked me to move in with him to his home when I was still pregnant, therefore I sold all my furniture, etc Nothing Barely left.
A month I moved in, he changed his lifestyle and he was kind of “nowhere to be”. I’d never know when he was coming home or how long for .
That was the last 3 months of my pregnancy: Been left alone, living with my eldest child in his house.
my heart was crushed in 1000

When I moved in he gave me a rental agreement to sign. Me, feeling vulnerable and without my own home as I had left my previous rented flat to move in with him, I signed it.
My housing benefits would pay for the rent.
I though it was abusive but being Pregnant and hormonal i went along with it.

He still did as he wants not being considerate or feeling any empathy towards me

I gave birth to my baby and things didn’t change much.
I wasn’t able to get near him, he would move if o tried to get closer. I felt so unloved and left in the corner.
Now he sees the baby and spends time with baby when it suits him, when it’s convenient for him. When he’s in the house and has time for it.
He has not given me one single penny towards maintenance. He’s bought maybe max 6 packs of nappies and max 6 small tins of baby milk.
That’s it.
Nothing else.
My feelings were shattered, my self confidence really low, I felt left in the shadows whilst he was having the single man life with no responsibilities.

Now, as a tenant I asked him for an eviction I kept asking him until I got it.
I’ve got an appointment with housing but didn’t mentioned before he was the father of my baby plus my statements show I pay him what I can which it’s half of rent - my housing benefit.
What do I do?
Will they penalise me for not giving complete
now that I’m getting back to my senses and realised I was sucked in a nightmare, a controlling and emotionally environment, I feel I need to tell everyone everything.
What do you reckon it’ll happen?
Will I be qualified to have a home for me and my children?
Thinking to talk to Gp and get support for my anxiety and stress. I need my life back.
not back to work yet.
Please advice.

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TwoBlueFish · 09/05/2019 21:25

If you moved in together as a couple then all benefits should be claimed as a couple. Do you have your own room in the house, like a lodger, or is it all shared space including the bedroom?

I would get in touch with Shelter or Welfare Rights to see if they can offer you more advice.

Mykidsaremypriority · 09/05/2019 21:58

Thank you.
No, it’s his house.
I sleep in a separate bedroom, like a lodge. It’s beeb that way for many months.
I’ve trued to chat to shelter but they seem too busy. Will try again tomorrow.
Thank you for suggesting welfare rights :)
Xx

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