rude home buyers

[scooter125]

Just had viewers round for the THIRD viewing. This time there were SEVEN of them! I can only assume that they're playing some kind of mind game, sitting in cars across the road for twenty minutes thinking I don't know they're there. This time they brought some middle aged relative who's clearly some sort of know-all. This one goes upstairs and starts rooting around until he finds the pole to open the loft hatch, next thing is I hear the ladder come down and he's up there. Phoned the agent and told him to give them the bum's rush if they try any more funny business, I don't need this, can sell this place any time, it's immaculate!

If they buy it, they’re going to be spending a shitload of money on it, so I think viewing the loft is ok. Seven people is overkill though.

Can you get the agent to conduct the viewings and you go out?

What exactly is the rudeness here? Bringing too many people? Going in the loft without asking?

The rudeness is going looking for the pole then going up there without even asking the person who owns the property. I suppose it's just a question of manners. A basic knowledge of how to behave. Terribly old-fashioned I know, but there we are. How times have changed.

Bringing extra people who know about stuff is fine.
Sitting outside so they can look at the building or neighbourhood, also fine.
Looking for the pole without asking is rude.

I'd be pissed off about the loft thing.

Not so sure about sitting across the road etc, can't say as I'd read too much into it.

7 people? Omg how ridiculous! Plus looking for the pole without asking you get it. I agree that is all very rude.

I know someone who kicked the viewers out of her house for something similar. They were touching all of her stuff and she couldn’t keep track of the people.

It's the fact they think I can't see them! They must think I was born yesterday. Turning up mob handed too. Was tempted to ask if they had a dog, so they could have brought it too. If I do another viewing I think I'll get a mock-up severed head and pop it in a kitchen cupboard, should make 'em jump..

Only the pole thing is vaguely rude. The rest I think you've overreacted.

Not asking is quite rude, yes, and just odd also- why on earth would you not ask the seller both for politeness and to make it simpler?
I have never forgotten when I was living in a student house that was going to be sold when we had left and an entire extended family with about half a dozen kids turned up who rampaged through the house picking up anything they liked the look of, throwing things about and commenting loudly and unpleasantly on everything. My dm would have eviscerated me if I'd behaved like that and I was stunned that these kids weren't even asked to stop.

That sounds a lot.
When buying my house with DP both my parents & FIL had a look around as well (but on different days) this was because my parents were giving us a lot of money to add to our deposit, mostly as an investment, and my DP father is a property surveyor. That's 5 adults plus babyDS.
I expected this kind of thing when I've sold properties since. Few people can afford a deposit on their own especially in a pricy area. Most couples came with parents for 2nd viewing.

Tbh when we were interested in buying a property we also came into the street,parked up and ' observed ' for awhile. However I would ask to look in places, turn on showers etc.

It's not an over reaction though really. It's more a lament at the lack of manners, only reacted inwardly. In a very British way. Silently tutting. Minded of Paris Syndrome, an affliction which affects Japanese tourists in the French capital, unable to cope with the infamous rudeness of some Parisians..

The link with Paris syndrome seems a bit tenuous . Isn’t that where a Japanese tourists find out that Paris in reality isn’t as beautiful as the Paris they’d dreamed of?
However, best bite your tongue, unless you’ve got a property which has dozens of people clambering over it. Sounds like they’re pretty serious, they wouldn’t do 3 viewings if they were simply nosey, must be really keen and you’re bound to get an offer soon. People do like to bring friends around who know more about property than they do, the chap i the loft was probably a builder/surveyor type friend or relative. I think the signs are good for you!

scooter125 I wouldn’t want seven people looking around my house, & not asking for permission to look in the loft. It’s rude. I’m with you OP.

I'm with you, too, OP. They were rude.

Paris syndrome is well known, absolutely nothing to do with the city itself. It's the rudeness of some Parisians. Japanese culture is all about manners and politeness as anyone who has visited Japan will confirm. Just like the way it used to be in Britain!
In any event, the surveyor's already been. I'm getting the agent to do the viewings. If some numpty who thinks he's some sort of expert falls through a ceiling it's not my fault!

This happened to us once. It was an Asian family that turned up, youngish couple. They brought all the family, 9 people in all. I was a bit too stunned to say anything.
Feedback after was that they didn't like the stairs. You know, the ones on the picture that generally you need in a 3 storey house...

I am with you. The polite thing to do is to say to the home owner "I'm so sorry we brought so many people this time, but grandmother is helping out with the deposit and really wanted to see the place. I do hope it is OK! And, if it's not too much trouble, would it be OK if we had a peep inside the loft? It's just to see the storage space up there, that's all". And then be profusely thankful for everything.

I was at the pub on Saturday and some random bloke who was playing darts kept sitting down at our table (not facing us) when people were at the bar getting drinks. SO rude!

It’s hard selling, particularly as it’s difficult not to take things personally and you’re letting people into your space. I had a downsizer who visited twice last week, once with her dil, who pulled this face for the whole time 😒 and also her son and a group of friends - they complained audibly and at length that the rooms were too small (perhaps because she’s downsizing). The thing was it was obvious from the first visit that she wasn’t going to buy it. Made a mental note that she would not be coming back a third time whatever happened.

I think it's a mistake to believe everyone has the same manners and way of behaving as you do. I would sit outside in a car too as I'd want to see the area at different times of the day. I wouldn't go up into the attic without asking but they were viewing the house so it's not unreasonable.

Other than the pole thing, nothing you've described sounds unusual or rude to me.
Sitting outside to get a sense of the area and the neighbours is perfectly sensible advice (that gets trotted out on MN all the time).

Sellers are often very precious about their house and the selling process.

I think it's fair enough they sit outside, I don't think they were trying to hide from you, you seem a tad paranoid there,

I'd assume you gave the ok for seven to turn up, and said they can look round? If that's the case, I wouldn't expect them to ask me every time I wanted To do something like look in the loft. It's just a loft. Unless you've got dead bodies up there, I'm struggling to see the issue.

I wouldn't like seven of them, but I'm guessing you agreed.

I presume they say there because they were early or waiting for someone?
You sound a bit paranoid to suggest they were trying to intimidate you.

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