Perhaps this belongs on the Relationships board, but I thought I'd try here first.
tl;dr We've moved around the world most of our married life for DH's career. Now we are late 30s with a couple of wonderful primary aged DC and it's time to settle down in our home country. We're renting in a lovely village with excellent schools, good commute, and not much turnover in the housing market. Options are few.
Something that meets almost all of our needs and wants was listed last month. We viewed and loved it, but there is one major defect: no off-street parking in a place where off street parking is very, very usual. DH has dragged his feet on investigating the feasibility of actually putting parking in, and is now complaining about other, smaller issues. His heart is clearly not in it. We made two offers lower than asking and sellers came down a bit, but not enough for DH. So that's a stalemate then.
DH is fixating on a different, larger property that needs more work. I'm not opposed to this place (it is stunning!) but am worried about the cost and effort involved in major renovation. However, DH keeps claiming he is too busy to speak to/meet with professionals about realistic figures for the work. In general he is moping about claiming that our situation "sucks."
I am losing patience with that attitude. We live in a great community amid beautiful natural scenery and have a healthy budget to spend. "Sucks" does not enter into it.
I am not about to insist that we buy one of the two options above, because no home is worth the price of his eternal resentment. At the same time, shouldn't he be concerned about my potential resentment, when his indecision may very well mean that we have to move into yet another rental (packing, unpacking and organization plus kid-steadying completely on me each time) and repeat this process next spring?
I'm hoping for tales of husbands who eventually made up their minds and bought something, and any advice for the process along the way...