We are just coming to the end of a project like this, in a 30's semi.
Our estimate was just over £100k for a loft conversion (including hip to gable), plus build over garage carried up into loft conversion and extended kitchen out the back to match existing utility room. We have gone over at moment but not by very much. So are going from a 3 bed to 6 bed house.
The loft conversion will come first before any work on a first floor extension due to the scaffolding required. All of this will be done from fhe outside, they will only break though into the landing when they are ready for fhe new staircase. So initially very little dust inside. We had it worst as we lost the whole of the rear kitchen wall due to a new rsj being installed to support the whole of the rest of the back corner of the house. We went from middle of August to January with a plywood and insulation board wall for the back of the house.
BUT have added extras onto costs due to unforseen work. Some suggested by builder and some had thought of myself but wasn't sure if a good idea, so ran by builder, who (unsurprisingly) said would be a good idea and then gave us reasonable quotes.
Extras so far, new larger combi boiler moved to new location, a lot of the pipework would have had to be re-done/routed if boiler stayed in old location anyway. Roof completely retiled, the builder was going to re-use the original tiles, but so many broke or cracked when removing it was just easier using new rather than 80 year old tiles (saved on scaffolding costs as it was already in place). Sofets and facias all replaced with plastic, this showed up some dry rot in the end of the rafters that wouldn't have been seen otherwise, so bad areas replaced as well. We're onto about £8k of extras so far. New internal doors will be about another £1k extra due to the cost of the ones we like over the buildrs estimated cost of doors.
One thing to think of is storage space, you will need to EMPTY your roof space. We ended up renting a 20ft container which we've filled with what was in the loft, garage and utility room.
Hope this helps, we've managed to get through it living in the house with 2 teenagers.