Neighbours loud sex/soundproofing a shared wall

[TwinMummy30]

Anyone has ever soundproofed their wall to cancel their neighbours noise coming through? Did it make any difference? Which product can you recommend? Any advice would be great.
They have loud sex nearly every night, lasting 1-2 hours where she screams all this time. It stops us from sleeping and we’ve started having anxiety issues. Talking to them is not the case as it would only make matters worse.

Music/shouting/making sex noises myself etc are out of question. Small kids sleeping in the next room.
I feel like soundproofing is the only option at the moment.

They’d done it with their teenage at that time kids sleeping next door and guests that they had over night! I don’t think they are really bothered about us hearing them.

You haven't said whether you've approached them over this, OP, or whether you've spoken to the council. Those should be your first steps.

Haven’t spoken to them as they are the type of people who are all nice when you are nice but when something doesn’t go their way then that’s it for them. I really don’t want to speak to them. If I speak to the council and they do something about it they’ll know it’s us and I really don’t want this.

Will google it @MoonSafarix

I used to turn the speakers around and blast out Salt n Pepper - Push It. Didn't make any difference. They moved out in the end, thank goodness. Send them a note through the door if you don't want a confrontation OP.

OP have you tried playing white noise and/or using ear plugs. It can block out an awful lot of sound and enable you to sleep

What about something like this

www.soundproofingstore.co.uk/how-to-soundproof-my-wall-against-noisy-neighbours

Might be pricey but might be worth it for uninterrupted sleep - there is a reason why sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture!

Thank you @cathyandclare and @MsMamaNature

I would be shouting a commentary every night:

“Ooooh - that one sounds like a 5 out of 10 - he could do better”

“It’s a SEVEN from Len”

“Only 13 minutes tonight - some folks have no stamina!”

And applaud loudly. Maybe they’d get the message!

I would put a letter through their door. Explain exactly how you feel. Tell them you obviously don’t want to fall out with them but you are at your whits end and have been for a long time. In the meantime look at the possibility of sound proofing. You should be able to rest and sleep in your own home.

This must be absolutely awful.

Some clever and witty suggestions from posters, a lot easier said than done.

I really hope you find a decent sound insulation product, I'm sure it will help.

Btw....she's faking

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/11643509/Loud-sex-noises-land-woman-in-jail.html

I wonder if these women scream when they're on their own, so to speak?
Thought not.
Performance shagging.

I would record the sound and send it to them.

Haha I know she’s faking it. I can somehow block her screaming but my poor DH has been sleeping with his head phones on for the past 5 years. He absolutely hates them and calls her “a witch”.
Thank you for your suggestions. I’ll have to do more research on soundproofing. Hoping it will work.

If you go for soundproofing go for the best you can afford, the cheaper stuff doesn't work. You do need to soundproof the entire room though for best results otherwise the noise just travels and escapes elsewhere. Doing one wall is pointless, I've researched this thoroughly as my neighbours are very loud inconsiderate bastards too.

Following with interest, especially for people who have had success with sound proofing.

We have a neighbour who likes to drunkenly sing and shout, then gets even more feral moaning and carrying on. No point talking to him, he's an alcoholic built like a brick shit house with a family "known to the police" (and we live in such a naice area (clutches pearls)).

Was searching last night and found various products. Looks like £50 per square meter plus installation for thin acoustic board stuff, maybe less for rockwool but takes up more space. Leaking of sound round the edges seems to be a thing, sort of all or nothing. We're still thinking of doing it, as even without the current ndn these houses have crap sound insulation so hoping it will be an investment regardless.

Any success stories out there?

Sorry, but laughing out loud at some of the suggestions.

The thing is, you need to address this however awkward it is. Why don't you write a note - it can be friendly, polite and apologetic if you like. I really think you need to try this and be brave for your own sanity.

'Dear X and X
Happy New Year and hope you had a great Christmas.
Slightly awkward issue, which is why we're writing a note rather than popping round to speak to you - and really sorry to bring this issue up and hope it doesn't cause offence or embarrassment.
For a long time now, we've been having trouble sleeping at night because of noise coming through from where our bedroom joins to your house. We've tried ear plugs and various other options but the noise simply isn't blocked out and is making us sleep deprived. We realise you are probably totally unaware of this and don't want to cause embarrassment, but just wondered if there is anything which can be done to improve the situation.
Apologies again for bring this up - we really didn't want to, but having struggled for such a long time, felt we ought to and hope you don't mind'

Wonder if you could send something like this? I know it's embarrassing for you and know they might either find it hysterical and ignore it or be irritated by it....but it's surely worth trying after 5 years. Be brave!

It absolutely must be worth a try. Post a note....no need to have a conversation about it.

We soundproofed our upstairs joining wall and it has made a massive difference. We still hear foot noise (albeit much quieter than it was) and no longer hear voices / washing machine spinning / bathroom noises so was well worth it.

We did knock a hole in the walls between our front and back bedroom so that the new 'soundproof wall' could run all the way from the front to the back of the house without any interruptions.

This is what my DH and Ddad did. On the wall they laid foam underlay (the type you put under wooden floors). On top of this they built a wooden frame (the underlay means that you don't have a hard surface on a hard surface transferring noise). They then filled the spaces between the frame with a polystyrene block insulation material. On top of the frame they fitted the Wickes soundproofing boards, they then fitted a second layer of soundproofing boards on top of those but in a different pattern so that the joins on the first layer were covered and finally it was plastered over.

We also had new underlay laid under all our carpets and used the thickest underlay we could get (which has also helped).

I'm sure there are other ways of doing it but that's how we did it and it has made a difference. We're going to do downstairs next.

Good luck, noisy neighbours are awful.

Sell up and moving may be the only option

@ILoveMyMonkey sounds great the only problem is our room is tiny and to put this many layers on the wall would make the room even smaller. I’ll ask DH to read it and see if he could somehow do it though. Thank you

Is it anti social hours? Log it with the police if so

A knock from the police may end it they would another anti social noise