Villanelle
We spoke with a couple of builders and luckily our preferred ones (who had worked on several friends of friends projects) were open to a ‘day rate’
They looked at plans and estimated how many weeks work it was and we agreed a day rate - so for budgeting we knew that xx weeks times xx per day was a rough labour figure.
They gave me estimates on how many bricks to buy etc and would give me a weekly list of materials as there wasn’t space to have it all delivered at once.
I’d ring round and get quotes for the stuff, the merchants soon get used to haggling and would beat other quotes etc
The builders would give me a heads up when I needed to be thinking about other trades - ie ‘we will be ready to fit the decorative lintels in three weeks and that’s usually the production time so you might want to get them ordered now’
We lived in it throughout so I was there when the odd thing went wrong as would nip out in car to fetch anything (this was rare as they were pretty organised)
Trades wise we had some contacts but also they would tell me details of who they usually used so I’d get quotes from them all. Some quotes I thought were mental (scaffolding!!) they reassured me were very normal
We asked them to do a few extras and as we discussed these they would say ‘that will be roughly another three days Work etc’
They’d prompt me when the building inspector needed to come and check stuff too and I’d ring and sort that.
There was some frictions at times - the builders def thought towards the end they’d been too cheap and get telling me how much of a good deal they’d done me.
We couldn’t afford them to do everything so anything unskilled my DH did evenings and weekends - they understood this and would suggest where he could do extras etc
One supplier who had been prebooked to deliver roof trusses for weeks let me down at 3 days notice which was awful at the time and meant we spent Christmas without a roof as we had to start again with another company.
They def hand helded me initially which was a huge help and then when they left I hadn’t a much better handle on how things worked and have been able to get on with it.
The main pitfall was coordinating so people came at the right time - I had the joiners and roof tiler booked in but when the timber wasn’t delivered we had to cancel and rebook them based on their availability so there were then gaps between trades.
If I had the budget I’d have had it all done by a company however the money we have saved is staggering