Moved and hate it

[Moononthehill28]

Has anyone else bought a house somewhere they thought they wanted to live, then realised it was a huge mistake?
We bought a house in haste due to rental property being sold. Moved hundreds of miles closer to family live in the city I grew up in.I realised it was a mistake almost immediately but we can’t afford to sell now for a while as we paid so much stamp duty. Already thinking of renting it out and moving again as soon as we can.
We’ve had two moves in a year already and feel exhausted and traumatised.
Has anyone just realised things weren’t right and moved quite quickly?
Just don’t know what to do.
The house isn’t right and I hate the traffic and noise.

My advice is to really sleep on it for a while, since you've moved twice in a year, maybe you're someone who doesnt adapt very quickly? If it takes a while to adapt, then give it the time it needs... These things are hard, and they do require patience... Try to get your attention off this topic, every place, every city, every house has good/bad features, give yourself the time to explore and appreciate the place.

I've just moved yesterday to another city away from my family for work, and im not expecting to love the city anytime soon

I’m not surprised you feel exhausted after moving twice in a year! I think you need to sit tight for a while and concentrate on getting your energy back.

A friend of mine did something similar. She didn't move so far but to a city she hadn't lived in for many years. At first the very change of lifestyle she'd wanted seemed awful and a huge mistake, but she went out for walks to explore the area, and used public transport (which had been hopeless where she was before) to get to know different parts of the city and the countryside round about.
It took a while but she's still there and very positive now as the city has so much to offer.
I hope the same happens to you. You've been through a lot. Give it some time.

Thanks for those encouraging replies. It has been an incredibly stressful time, a lot has gone on and there has been so much to cope with. I do need to get my energy back and focus on the positives.
I just seem to be fire fighting at the moment!

You need to pinpoint exactly what it is that bothers you about this house and work out whether moving is the answer or there are things you can do to make it better.

We had some what the fuck have we done moments in this house, even though we love it.

I agree with people about giving it time. Sometimes we do need to get used to a place and can learn to love it. Moving is so very stressful, and you’ve moved twice! can you plan some positives... decorating a room to make it feel like ‘yours’. So at least you have a room which feels and looks like you and your style where you can feel comfortable? The decorating would also give you something positive to focus on rather than your feelings about the house.

As soon as we moved into our last house I hated it. I grew to love some bits of it but not enough. We sold last month. But I know this isn’t the for everyone always.

Well.. it’s close to the flight path so plane noise. It is mostly north facing so gloomy rooms that feel chilly. Bedrooms are very small. Kitchen has no utility and very little storage.
It is in a good area, but close to very busy roads.
We have lives in this area before, 16 years ago. At that time we were I. A very different stage of our lives.
I hate the traffic, the pollution and the lack of countryside.
We had been looking for a long time and kind of hand our hand forced eventually as we had to be out the rental we were in.
There are good things, but it’s just not the right house for us and I don’t like being in a city again.
I may feel differently in time.

The thing is I knew what I wanted but couldn’t find it in the right area or within our budget so this house is a massive compromise. I just feel disappointed

Thing is, can you realistically get what you want elsewhere? You said you had to compromise and surely that will still be the case if you move?

I sympathise about the gloomy rooms. They'll never be sunny, but you can do a lot with décor. I painted my kitchen-diner in light ivory and refloored and now it feels much warmer and lighter and I spend a lot more time in it.

Not much you can do about the flight path or the busy roads, but at least it's better than noisy neighbours! Less personally intrusive.

I don't know how long you've been living there but if you can't get used to it I suppose you'll have to weigh up when you can realistically afford to move and where to. I'm assuming since you looked for a long time and still didn't get what you want that you moved to somewhere expensive.

I do hope things work out for you. It's so important to be happy in your home.

Oh I totally recommend a light yellow in north rooms. Find something light enough to look cream, but with a yellowish tinge and it will warm the look of the north rooms. And some bright accent colours ie curtains, cushions etc.

This time of year doesn't help anyway.

Does it have the potential to add value? If it does maybe you can concentrate on that and what can be done.

Not sure what you can do about flight path, lack of countryside and north-facing though. Sorry.

We downsized and I can honestly say downsizing possessions as well to fit in a much smaller house was quite good for the soul. We didn't need that stuff! So if it's smaller, downsize your possessions and then have a strict one in, one out rule. Kitchen storage is a problem for us too, we moved the drier into the garage, got rid of a radiator to free up a wall for a cupboard and it's much better. If you have the same flooring everywhere it helps the flow, and the light and space paints are quite good too. Cutting back trees and shrubs also helps, and creating windows in the front and back doors helps a lot to get more light in. It took me ages to settle, about 18 months, but would hate to go back to the old house now.