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I HATE selling my house

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AlexSc · 06/10/2018 19:10

I have to have a rant. I hate selling my house... please tell me I’m not the only one.

We’re only in week 3 of selling, but I just do NOT have the patience for this. The cleaning up, the anticipation of the phone calls from the EA, the negative feedback from the EA after each viewing.. then waiting for the next phone call!

My nerves are on tenterhooks, and I know I have to be patient as this market is dead and it could take years / months.

Someone tell me the trick to being patient and putting it to the back of my mind (rather than obsessing every second!)

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rumandbrazen · 06/10/2018 19:33

The first few weeks are the worst. The tyre kickers, the non proceedables and the nosey. Once you're past that I think it gets easier to deal with. At least you don't have a false impression about the current market, which is a BIG help, IMO.

Easilyflattered · 06/10/2018 19:42

No we had a figure in mind that we really wanted, but then accepted 2k less just because I was sick of trying to keep a house immaculate with two young children and trying to juggle Saturday morning viewings with swimming lessons etc. After 3 months I'd had enough of the emotional rollercoaster, waiting for feedback, having all my clutter in storage.

Beebumble2 · 06/10/2018 19:56

Flowers I felt exactly like you, it’s been awful every time we’ve sold. However, on the bright side the house has always sold, eventually!
My DH says it’s just a business arrangement, so if you can that’s the way to view it.
Difficult when it all seems so personal.

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AlexSc · 06/10/2018 19:56

Well done for selling after 3 months! I’m hearing horror stories of it taking much longer.. and with the last 3 weeks feeling like 3 years, I will need therapy (or more wine!) during this process ;-)

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MovingThisYearHopefully · 07/10/2018 00:27

After 3 weeks you're feeling impatient, I honestly hope you sell soon lol. We've been dealing with this bullshit for 19 months now. Thats not counting the year before that we spent getting the house ready to sell & waiting for our selfish neighbours to finish their neverending building work before we started. Hmm This time last year we were at point of exchange before it transpired our buyers buyers couldn't get a mortgage. We remarketed to get a proceedable buyer as it was clear our buyers had unrealistic expectations on price. The fact they still haven't sold confirms this. We lost the house we were buying & played musical estate agents but are now finally at exactly the same stage as last year with new buyers, new house to purchase. As you can imagine we were well pissed off with this shit a long time ago. Its pushed DH & I to almost splitting up. If we don't move this time I don't know what we'll do.

eggofmantumbi · 07/10/2018 07:42

I feel exactly the same OP. we've been on the market about 5 weeks and I'm so fed up of it!!

SpoonBlender · 07/10/2018 07:45

Best practice your Zen breathing. It's not ideal at the moment, everyone's waiting to see what Brexit will bring in house price changes... no-one wants to go into negative equity after six months. Sorry!

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AlexSc · 07/10/2018 08:46

Very true - my brain says stay calm and put it to the back of my mind, but every nerve in my body is waiting for the phone call - silly I know!!

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Shelley54 · 07/10/2018 08:56

We tried it for 4 months at the beginning of the year. Constantly picking up the toys, hiding all signs of our cats, walking round the block in the rain while viewings took place... we’ve ended up staying where we are and spending the money we didn’t spend moving on doing our place up. I still love the house we wanted to buy, and think about it all the time, but nothings shifting in our local market.

eggofmantumbi · 07/10/2018 09:08

We're pretty desperate. Husband is currently working away from home Monday- Friday. We're willing to take a bit of a hit to get a sale but not sure that even helps. It's so slow.
Fucking Brexit

DwangelaForever · 07/10/2018 09:19

I hated selling my apartment I put it on the market last June and didn't get a sale agree til October and then we moved in Feb. It gave me such bad anxiety cause I just wanted to be moved into a bigger place so I could have baby number 2 Grin

The house we moved in to is nice and was one of the few within our budget when we moved so we were happy, but FIL has just bought a place and is selling his house and we are considering buying it now. So will be selling this place in the new year a year after we moved in Confused. I wish he had've told us he was gonna sell then we could've just rented for a year instead of moving in here and getting the heating converted to gas etc ..

Easilyflattered · 07/10/2018 11:07

Do you have to move OP? I think only people who are in no choice to move are doing so right now.

We completed 5 months ago and as I said above took a lower offer than we'd hoped for from very proceedable buyers, and then haggled with our sellers who also needed to move.

At the time the estate agents were telling us to try and squeeze every last penny out of our first time buyers and my mum was quite vocal in her opinion that we should have held out for more. Other houses on our street are still not sold and I know of at least two chains where the bottom has dropped out due to Brexit nerves.

Are you in the unfortunate position that you must move? Or is there anything you could do to make your current house work better?

MrsWhirly · 08/10/2018 13:54

Four weeks on the market here - hating every minute of it!

trevthecat · 08/10/2018 16:49

We've just gone on the market. I'm FTB but partner is not. It's all new to me and the anxiety is horrible!

Mildura · 08/10/2018 17:03

@trevthecat - Do you mean First Time Seller?
If you have just gone on the market, surely you can't also be a First Time Buyer?

eggofmantumbi · 08/10/2018 18:12

We've just taken 10k off today as really need to move. Fingers crossed that gets things going

Lilmisskittykat · 08/10/2018 20:11

I feel your pain it took me a year to sell my house and I took a big hit... not having any fun now buying either ... this has also taken over year so so far I've spent two and a bit years with houses constantly on the brain

I cannot wait to delete the right move app... honest I would love to give up if it was an a option...

You will get there with the sale - I think if you have found where to move to that's half the battle it's reading like moving on is just as difficult for people

eggofmantumbi · 08/10/2018 21:39

I hope so! We've got our dream house in mind and it's luckily staying on the market so fingers crossed it moves quicker.

As OP said, the constant tidying etc is so annoying. And you find yourself worrying about little things ( like ironing bloody duvets) which are nothing to do with the actual house!

Daisy2990 · 08/10/2018 21:59

I am so with you. We took 10k off after four weeks and an offer from a non proceedable buyer. We've now had the classic window shopper phase (didn't like the shape of the rooms and other daft feedback).

We've noticed that the initial rush after listing (or a price drop) seems to come from people who are viewing everything that comes onto rightmove and have probably been doing that for months without any intention of buying.

Properties do seem to be selling though... I think we may have to ditch Purple Bricks and get an agent that actually screens the people coming round.

Jem01 · 09/10/2018 14:04

We are days from putting our house on the market. So watching this thread with interest (or anxiety?!)

Not looking forward to the constant tidying up. Although I’m pretty sure I do that on most days cleaning up after 2 kids Grin

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AlexSc · 09/10/2018 20:50

Glad I’m not alone!

I actually spoke to the EA today to ask them not to give me negative feedback unless it was useful!

I hate dreading the phone ringing knowing it is going to be more feedback that starts with “They love..” BUT ..... then the list of things I can’t change. Today’s was “they didn’t like the neighbour walking past the window!”

While the EA thought I was crazy, it feels like a relief that I now know when the EA calls it will either be for a viewing or some good news!!

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harriethoyle · 09/10/2018 21:48

Oh God I TOTALLY GET THIS! Coming up to three weeks on and it's so frustrating. I've had very little negative feedback about the house but still no-one's biting... One chap said it was too nice to offer on. Give. Me Strength!

EA has taken new photos of the front (NDN had scaffolding up) and is going to do a promoted thing on right move, so we're highlighted periodically. Gah!

trevthecat · 09/10/2018 21:50

I am first time buyer but partner is not. I moved into his home that he owns. We're both first time sellers

eggofmantumbi · 10/10/2018 06:14

I get that OP! we just keep getting told it's slightly too small which is frustrating as we're 4 need, but downstairs is smaller and there's not much we can do without spending a fortune! We've reduced by 10k, on Monday so hoping that causes a flurry this week!

eggofmantumbi · 20/10/2018 11:40

We've had another viewing today.... Now after spending ages tidying and cleaning another 2 days if waiting to hear! Grrrrr
Although I always think if I don't hear on the day, it's not meant to be, but it's always the weekend so I think about it loads....

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