Nosey sods that come for a visit on the day you move in

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By this I mean people who know when your moving date is and also the fact that we didn't get the keys until 3pm, yet decided to come for a visit as it's "just on my way home - can I have a nosey?"

We were still emptying a huge lorry load of furniture at the time!! Why don't people use their brains and think "maybe I'll wait for a visit when they're settled in" ?

Unpacking aside, I want to show people my house when I've got the boxes away and furniture where I want it.

This person did it when we last moved ten years ago to our first house and pushed their way in noseying around. By the time the furniture was in and we felt a bit more proud to show it off, they weren't interested then.

This time round I did say "can you come back another time?" But they looked at me like I'd said something really rude. They'll probably tell everyone that I was a rude cow.

It was over a week ago and I'm still annoyed!

This is my SIL by the way

Hand her a stack of boxes to carry or the kettle to fill and make a brew

I'd be pleased they were bothered enough to come and see us and our new home. I hope your SIL brought a flask or biscuits or something though!

I found friends and family popping in on spec was a big part of what made the new house quickly feel like home.

Bloody rude OP, moving house is horrible, so if you're not involved in moving boxes, scrubbing floors or cupboards then bog off!!!!

Say "Oooh goody! The cavalry's here!" and put them to work helping to unpack! CFs!

I just felt stressed and harassed and then to see her car just pull into the drive and she'd not said she was coming, my heart just sunk!

She probably saw it on my face too, it's left me feeling like a bitch but why would you come to look at someone's house when they are still moving furniture in?

She had My nephew with her as well and has a way of saying "he just wanted to come round" like that rumps everything. Then I feel bad because it's like I'm disappointing him. Especially when I ended up turning them away

Was genuinely still guiding furniture off the lorry through and 5 blokes saying "where do you want this?" and also got my own DD 4yrs old getting a bit bored!

Above all else, I don't want to show it to people when it looks like a bombs gone off! Would be nice to move in first!

Rude! (Another matter if she’d called round to take your daughter off somewhere so you could get on, though)

Oh I didn't think you meant family. I don't see the problem with that at all.

Nah, I like friends/family coming over for a nosey

Just would rather show people round when I'm ready rather than be rushed and was definitely to busy for a guided tour at the time!

I'm pregnant with twins as well and I have this fear that she'll keep turning up unannounced when I'm trying to settle into a routine with them when they're here.

She did it quite a bit with DD as a newborn (I would never know at what day/time she might just appear! Could never relax!)

Well don't give her a house key for sure. But I would have assumed she came to help and gave her some boxes to carry, tea to make or sent her off with 4yo.
If she drops in when you have the twins keep sending her to do chores. She'll soon get bored.

Ha. On our moving day if you show your face you also help move a piece of furniture, or find the kettle and make everyone a cup of tea, thems the rules.

Ah, see that you have a 4yo DD. I’d have asked her to take DD down the park to let you get on if she could, thanks now BYE

I think I missed a trick there! Should have asked her to take DD to the park 😆

Definitely missed a trick. If people come at times when it's blantantly, terribly inconvenient, then put them to work!

Same if she does it when you've had twins - say "oh brilliant you're just in time to ... Take DD to the park / make some lunch because I've been so busy with the twins / etc. If she keeps coming at least you'll know it's because she actually wants to help - although it's more likely she'll just stop.

We've got a neighbour who'll try to do this if someone's moving into the street - will stop for a "chat" and gradually inch her way into their hallway. She's a fucking pain in the arse - I was getting our garden done and found her in the back garden "chatting" to the builders to suss out what patio we were having laid.

My MIL managed to be "just passing" when I was in the middle of giving birth to DD2. Just passing is fine - but she doesn't even live on the UK mainland so to be randomly going through the Midlands on the offchance was ridiculous!

DH's cousin hasn't spoken to MIL for about ten years after she threw him out of our house. We were in the middle of remodelling the bedroom, building the wardrobes in, 2 small children and utter chaos when he just 'called in to see how it was going'. He was ushered out of the door quicker than he came through it by MIL.

DH, FIL and I were upstairs so knew nothing of this until after the event. Cousins wife branded MIL 'exceptionally rude' and never spoke to her again 😂

If I went to someone's house and saw they were clearly busy - or like my SIL if I knew the exact date people were moving in or having work done - I'd think "They'll obviously be busy that day. I'll visit another time".