EA sent details to my ex

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I want to throw up and need to vent as the office is closed for the day.

I'm selling my home. It was awarded to me as part of divorce. Exs name is still on until i sell. Which I'm doing.

I'm purchasing a property in my name only. I don't want ex to know the address as he's controlling (especially financially) and he was abusive. Without going into detail he did not get the dcs overnight for a couple of years until he could prove he wasn't a threat.

My Estste agent has named my ex as a purchaser and has sent out copies of the document to him which includes the address of the house im buying, vendor details and my solicitor details,

I did not want him to know any of this.

I've immediately gone into a catastrophing mindset. Is this as bad as I fear?

I think they are lying because sending an ex info like that could cost them thousands in fines from the information commissioner and you can sue too. So report them to the information commissioners office - ico.org.uk/make-a-complaint/

Only you know how bad it is for your ex to have this information. I wouldn't be able to purchase the property with my ex knowing - it would be too dangerous.

Report them. Why would they tell you they had sent info to him then suddenly discover they hadn’t as soon as you complained - sounds dodgy as hell to me.

I smell bullshit, they'd have sent his info out the same time as yours

Sorry to hear that OP. It sounds like they are backtracking now. I’d pull out of the purchase. Wishing you luck with your search

So, they told you they'd sent it and once confronted said they haven't sent it? Sounds suspect. They would post them all out together. Is it the Memorandum of Sale? How do they have his address, is he still living with you? I think you need to go in and speak to the office manager tomorrow, make it clear what the risk to you is and it may affect your purchase.

You need written confirmation that they didn't send it, it sounds a bit suspect, how would they have his address.

Report to the ICO anyway, I agree they are lying. Also speak to your conveyancing solicitors asap.
I felt sick for you on reading this

The sale memorial is sent by the agent you are buying through, not your selling agent.
They may have supplied details incorrectly but everyone should get the documents
Is your ex’s address anywhere on the docs you’ve been sent? If not he probably hasn’t got them.
Not great service though, but can’t see how it is your agent’s fault - are you buying through them as well?

*memorandum not memorial

This is just not nice to hear. I really hope it works out for you and they actually didn't

If they did, then get all the compensation you can for having to give up the house you want.

I don’t understand why you think they would have his mailing address?

How could they sell a jointly owned property without it?

Oh right... ignore me!

I think they're lying too

Report it OP - they were presumably telling the truth when they told you they had sent them so a lie to cover it up is more than likely

I'm also thinking it is a Memorandum of Sale - are you selling your own property and buying the new one through the same EA, otherwise the vendor's EA would not have your ex's details

It is common practice to lie to cover up a mistake. I have experienced it even from solicitors, let alone EAs (who are notorious for lying).

You are presumably then using the same agent for sale and purchase? I don’t really understand the scenario.

It would be impossible for them to lie and not get caught out because ex would have the piece of paper waving in his hand. They probably haven’t sent anything.

They use email. Why is this situation so hard for some people to understand? Why would the OP make contact with her ex given what she has said about the relationship? He is unlikely, unless he's really stupid, to show his hand straightaway.

How awful. They’ve really ballsed this up and I wouldn’t believe them about not actually sending it. Definitely agree to report to the ICO.

I don’t see how you have any choice but to pull out of the purchase now? Would your ex reveal he knew straight away or is he malicious enough to keep it up his sleeve?