Selling house and stress

[LIVIA999]

Hello!
We've been on the market for nearly a year on and off. Different agents etc. It was massively awkward overpriced by two and the third ( who I originally wouldn't go with as I didn't like) have been brilliant.
We now at last have an offer that seems to be all going in the right direction.
We've had three fall through.
I'm a quite stressed person anyhow but this really has taken its toll on me.
My DP is the same.
Unless something goes wrong we are hoping to exchange and complete in September some time.
How have other people felt during this time?
I honestly thought we would split up at some points during this. Only for our house is no longer suitable I don't think I could do this again.
Is it just me or is it as stressful as I'm thinking?!

I have no experience of this yet, but I really really hope it all goes fine for you. Hugs 🤗

It is stressful - I think it's in the top 3 of most stressful life events after bereavement and divorce. DP takes it in his stride (we've moved twice in 8 years) whereas I find it more stressful. Selling and buying simultaneously is awful - it's the uncertainty of it and lack of control I think. Once you know when you will complete, book removals with full packing. Not worth the additional stress of trying to do it yourselves.

It is always stressful. No two ways about it. You'll get through it though.

Thanks! I feel like I'll never feel unstressed again. We are also buying a building site of a house and I'm worried it is the wrong move.
The last time we moved it was 13 years ago. Mind you I had a baby then and I did it. Maybe it's like child birth and I've blocked it out!

Its been incredibly stressful for us too LIVIA999. We first put our house on the market almost 17 months ago with EA 1. Had a sale which fell through in October. Remarketed in November with EA 2, Purplebricks, (don't do it people) who promised the earth but failed to deliver. We lost the house we were buying in February. Cut our losses & went on with EA 3 in May. Finally accepted an offer on Monday at 9.4% below asking price. Put an offer in on a new build, which is 57k more than the house we were originally buying!

During this time DH & I have been at the brink of splitting up. One of my DC hasn't spoken to him or her sister in a long time, so living together in such a small space is a nightmare. I have bought & sold numerous times in the last 20 years, but this is by far the worst experience!

I have just come through the other side and finally believe it worked out for the better in the end. Started the process in August 2016, 2 chains broke. Finally sold Nov last year because I broke the chain and moved into rented. Rented for 6 months and the fact we were chain free helped in securing a house with so many offers. Now almost finished renovating and moving in this weekend. Got a much better house in the end. Best of luck to you.

@MovingThisYearHopefully my DP said today that this is also the worst experience he has had. That it's changed so much in the 25 years he's been buying and selling.
I wonder what's changed.
I'm just surprised that people make offers and just drop off radar.
We had an offer who just went awol never heard from them again.
One who made insane demands and was bloody rude! Then turns out she never had the money anyhow. She kept telling us how her house was much nicer than this one .
Luckily we didn't paint the house inside for her as she didn't like white or put in the windows she wanted......

@Newgate glad you got in!
I'm beginning to think people just don't move any more so it's nice to hear that people manage it!

During this time DH & I have been at the brink of splitting up. One of my DC hasn't spoken to him or her sister in a long time, so living together in such a small space is a nightmare.

That sounds so stressful! Are they not talking bc of something to do with the house move?

It is incredibly stressful @LIVIA999. We moved last year (took a year) and towards the end I couldn't sleep or eat properly. Even when we finally exchanged I was still a nervous wreck, waiting for something to go wrong.

We've been in our house since the end of last year. The second we opened the door on completion day all the stress lifted away and DH and I were so pleased we'd made it, despite the stress and heartache it had cost us.

There were times I couldn't believe anyone could ever buy and sell at the same time and times when we felt we'd missed out on our dream property. But as everyone kept saying, it all works out and we are so happy now. Keep the faith - it will be worth it!

Thanks @OneDayIWillHaveAGreatUsername it's good to hear you got there!
We had the structural engineer over last week but haven't heard anything since.
I'm sure it will be fine. Everytime I think of it my stomach leaps over!

@MovingThisYearHopefully I wondered same. Was it house stress that caused the not talking and near breakup

It is much more stressful these days because prices and therefore the sums of money involved are so high. When prices were lower, buyers/sellers/banks were not making such gargantuan and consequently risky financial decisions.