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Advice on how to deal with an angry builder?

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RollMeOverInTheClover · 22/07/2018 19:09

Warning: long rant ahead!

We live in France, and last year had a glass fence fitted around our pool to make it safe for my preschooler and baby. A small British company fitted the fence, that consists of the owner and a couple of employees. We told him we wanted to be at the property when he fitted it (we were away on holiday the week before). First - is this reasonable do you think? I mean, it’s our property right? Secondly the gate would have been locked!

As we’re fairly isolated and it’s tricky to get any repairs done, my husband likes to watch how things are installed so that he can repair issues himself. Also we had had a run of bad builders/plumbers/you name it who made a lot of costly and stressful errors in our absence, so we decided a few years ago to always be present during works. The owner and fitter stayed at our home while they were fitting the fence, we fed them once or twice, then left them to their own devices meal-wise, we had a difficult and exhausting toddler and couldn’t face all the cooking. Over one of the meals, I recounted some of the tales of awful work done here, and explained that this was why we no longer allow work to be done in our absence. The owner took great offence at this, took it to mean we distrusted him personally and has been an a*hole ever since!

We’ve had a few issues with the fence since it was installed, he takes months to come out to fix the issue, and gets incredibly angry while he’s here. He’s written some horrid emails, one of which he criticised our hospitality. He actually made me cry on my birthday, not that he knew! He came out again this week because one of the gates had dropped and we couldn’t use it. The new panel was the wrong size, too small, so now the gate doesn’t close. He got really angry, and accused my husband of being at fault! He then stormed off saying that he’d had enough and he wasn’t going to fix it. DH called him an hour or so later to ask him to return to make the pool secure, the guy gave him one option which wasn’t brilliant ( a longer lock to cover the gap created by the too-short panel, which would take up to 6 weeks to be installed) and which would look shit. He then got angry with DH who is a super chilled guy, and DH ended up putting the phone down on him. I then called him back, and deliberately very calmly asked him to make the pool safe for my children, saying I’m insanely worried about the danger of the pool not being secure. He said he’d come up with a solution but then started shouting at me! Saying that the project had gone wrong because we didn’t trust him and it had created a bad vibe! What a di#k!!!!! I still maintain that we wouldn’t have employed the man had we not trusted him, but he has such a bee in his bonnet about it. He carried on shouting that my husband hadn’t said hello (not true) or thank you (for a gate that doesn’t work?!) and i had to talk loudly over him saying that my baby needed me and that I was going to end the conversation now, so that he could’t accuse me of putting the phone down on him!

I can’t stop thinking about the encounter, he was so aggressive. If we ditch him we’ll have to pay someone else to fix the fence, which will not only cost a lot but will be incredibly difficult to arrange. There are other issues with the fence that he refuses to take responsibility for (corrosion on the steel supports).

I’m just looking for some advice on how to handle him! He makes me feel sick.

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NellMangel · 22/07/2018 19:12

I would ditch him completely. Find a French company that do it.

dimsum123 · 22/07/2018 19:12

I'd get someone else in. More money, yes, but less stress, hassle and would just get the job done.

bakingdemon · 22/07/2018 19:21

There comes a point where you have to accept the relationship has broken down and find a new builder. We had a long and painful renovation project in the U.K. which our builder walked off when there should have been 6 weeks to go. We wish we'd fired him at the beginning of the project when our site was burgled because he hadn't secured it properly.

FatBarry · 22/07/2018 20:36

I don't get why you would pick someone from the uk, and they would agree to do the work in France. It's not like they can nip in on their way home to fix any issues.

RollMeOverInTheClover · 24/07/2018 13:57

Hi, thanks for responding! Ditching him would cost us a couple of thousand so very painful when we’ve already paid a lot for the fence. The hassle factor is considerable when looking at finding someone else to do the job...local trades are not capable.

In answer to FatBarry, we’ve been here 11 years and use the French trades where we can. We’re in the countryside, and they’re not good at anything out of the ordinary....also they often come in at twice the price of UK or German trades/companies,they won’t travel for more than 45 mins so it limits your pool of companies/workers, they refuse to work for you if you ask for more than a couple of quotes and don’t employ them, take ages to complete the job...I could go on and on! You’re right about fixing the issues, ie they can’t just nip over, but you would have thought with a fence there wouldn’t be too many issues?! Also this guy often works in France.

Having said all that, I will have another look and see if I can find a company to replace him. I was considering letting it roll and then claiming against him in small claims court when he inevitable charges us for the new panel (he’s threw around the figure of £1500 when he was being angry and accusatory, so i’m fully expecting it). You’re all right, he brings a lot of stress into our lives and I agree it’s not worth it. Plus I’d like to be able to write bad reviews and post them all over the internet! Small revenge but satisfying.

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RollMeOverInTheClover · 24/07/2018 13:59

Ps Thanks for being there so I could get it all off my chest!

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