Emotional, listed late parents house

[carrielou2007]

It is the right time but feeling very emotional today seeing my late parents house listed for sale on rightmove.

I’d been thinking about moving for some time, feeling squeezed in with 3 dc, terrible parking youngest due to start school so due to inc hours at work/lower children bill but being a single parent such a scary prospect.

Then my lovely dad died unexpectedly last May and made me think life is too short. Sold my house, moved into new house a week before Christmas, hugely stressful but we really are so happy here.

My lovely mum died, again unexpectedly a few weeks before we moved, although not in good health there was a very sudden illness and having been married to my dad for almost 60 years I think the fight just went out of her. At least they are together again and no longer in any pain.

My sister and I have thought about all the options and both agreed to sell and it has gone live today. My childhood home, bought it from new in 1970’s, my sister lives in the same road, my new house 1/4 of a mile away.

I know it is the right time, really hoping a family move in to make it their lovely family home but my goodness driving past seeing the for sale board up took my breath away.

Feeling a bit poop

Oh that's hard
You could think about a new family starting to make memories?

You have my sympathies. When we made the decision to sell late mums home it was so difficult seeing it on the internet and knowing that was our final connection to her. Seems strange but felt closer to her just to be able to sit in her house and have a cuppa.
Wasn’t our childhood home even, she had moved a few times since we’d lost dad a few years previously but the decision is so hard and final.

I know exactly how you feel we sold my late parents home just under 2 years ago and it had been our family home . It was one of the worst things I have ever done. Both my parents seemed to keep everything and I now have a spare bedroom full of their stuff that I was too sentimental to throw out . The house was sold quite quickly and I have to pass regularly but now when I do it doesn't make me so sad I just think about a new family making it their forever home . For you

That sounds really hard. I would struggle with this too. Hopefully a young family will buy it, and if they are lucky enough, may they enjoy many happy years watching their children grow up and welcoming grandchildren - and all the wonderful milestones that come with it - just as your Mum and Dad did. It sounds like a very special place.

I hope the selling process is as smooth as possible for you and your sister xx

I feel for you, it’s tough hope it goes well💐

I sold our family home of over 50 years last year after my DM was killed in an accident. My DF had died aged 54 some years before. It was a beautiful house and sold very quickly, over the asking price, but only 5 miles away from where I live I still haven't brought myself to drive past.
Worst time of my life

I really feel for you it is such a tough decision letting go of your parents home.

For me it had a very strange outcome.

It took months to sell the house and because I lived 200 miles away, I didn't get to meet the buyers. On the day we completed the Estate Agent rang to tell me that our buyer was actually my best friend from senior school. We had lost touch and I hadn't seen her since I was 17.

She hadn't realised it was my childhood home (I lived 10 miles away from school and usually went to her house if we were meeting up) until she saw a photo of me in my Mother's bedroom. She put 2 & 2 together and realised she had been there before.

She kept it to herself until we completed because she didn't want our childhood friendship to muddy the negotiations.

So now we are back in touch and have rekindled our friendship. We meet regularly despite living so far apart and I get to see the photos of everything she has done to update 'our' house.

I sold our family home after dps died. At first I was bereft, but the process of putting it on the market helped some (going through the things helped me feel closer to my parents, and focused my mind on the things that mattered the most.

The day we left I was heartbroken (but excited as we closed on our first family house the same day). Now I feel at peace about it. I have some treasured furniture and objects in my new house. I know that Our old family home so well that I can visit it in my mind whenever I want. Nobody can ever take that away from me.

My chfhoof home was demised following a parent's death. I avoided going past it for three years. I drive past it a while back and it felt so wrong to see the empty plot of land with a different house half built on one side of it. It was such an odd feeling.

Think of the Rightmove advert with the old couple moving out and the toddler starting to climb the stairs..... Circle of life and all that.

Harder I know because your parents have died, condolences OP.

Maybe take a cutting from a plant while you still can.

Thank you so much everyone for all your replies, I am so sorry for all of you who have sadly been through the same process. I do try to be a ‘glass half full’ so thankful my parents had s good and long life, I was with both of them at the end, such a privilege and that my children knew and loved them both. Yet it is so hard. Finding my junior school reports (i’m 44!!), my mum’s hairbrush things like that just stop me in my tracks.

So hoping a lovely family will buy their house, my sister and I have talked about how we’re not that bothered about who offers the most £££ more who they are really.

I had several cash buyers offer on my last house wanting to rent it out but my heart went to cash buyer parents for a single mum with her two boys. Likewise our new home the people knew it was just me and my 3 dc and they knew we would really love the house just makes the difference iyswim?

This little chap is 9 weeks Percy the pug

Oh, I'm sitting here crying. My mum died 6 March, 21 years since my Dad died. My sister is in the USA and I'm trying to clear Mums house (2 hours drive away from mine) to put it on the market. It still feels too soon, but it has to be done. The idea of a new family making it theirs is comforting.
Hope it all goes smoothly for you.

It is very sad, and will never be the same again once the windows are changed, door is a different coloiur and the front gardenis dug up for parking.
Our family home was demolished, we were the only family to live there it was bought by my parents when they moved to the area, and after my mum died my dad moved to the coast to somewhere smaller with a lot less land. Now on the plot of his house, a neighbours and part of another neighbour's garden are 13 houses in a cul de sac. The old wall at the bottom of the garden is still there, it's listed (was the wall of an older bigger house).

If it helps - DH and I are on the other side of this equation, just about to move into a house which was sold due to the passing of its elderly owner. We love the house so much and intend for it to be the home we raise our children in. We plan to fill it with life and activity and memories. I hope the previous owner would have liked the thought of that.