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Having second thoughts about moving....

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Harveypuss · 01/04/2018 20:01

We are in the process of conveyancing from moving from our semi detached house to a larger detached house, within the same town. We've been very happy in our semi but wondered if it was time for a change and a nice house came on the market which we viewed, offered on and are proceeding with. We sold our current property quickly so all proceeding nicely.

However, as time goes on I am starting to have second thoughts. We've been very happy here. I'm scared that I won't settle in the new house because it's so much larger than our current one and whether I will miss the cosiness of our current home. We'll be moving from a west facing garden to a north facing garden which worries me, but that said, UK weather doesn't guarantee the sun much, so perhaps I should discount this.? We can hear our elderly neighbour's TV though the wall, which irritates me sometimes, which made me dream about a detached place.

Has anybody else had doubts about moving when push came to shove? Is this an omen that we should just stay? It'll piss everybody off in the chain no doubt, but I'm scared of making the wrong choice. My husband wants to move and thinks we'd regret not taking the opportunity. My teenage kids would prefer to stay but are OK with a move if it's still local as they don't want to leave their friends, which I understand.

I am, by nature a worrier/procrastinator. Anybody else moved and regretted it, or pulled out of a move and felt it was the right/wrong decision?

Would welcome your views. TIA.

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SantanicoPandemonium · 01/04/2018 20:15

I’m in the same situation - just bought a detached house and will soon be moving out of my wee flat that I’ve lived in for nearly 15 years. I’ve been having loads of panic about the higher bills and needing better security and all sorts of silly little things. I’m getting quite emotional as well about leaving the place I’ve lived my entire adult life, and turned from a grotty hole into a really nice home Sad

But on the other hand, everytime I have to listen to my neighbours shitty music or smell someone else’s cooking I’m reminded that I’m doing the right thing Grin

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, if you go ahead with the move it’ll take a while to get settled but I’m sure you’ll be happy there Flowers

Wishfulmakeupping · 01/04/2018 20:19

Honestly it could go either way you’ve got to go with your gut- I made a mistake with this house and I knew it at the point of exchange but couldn’t convince Dh- my friend on the other hand had the exact same feeling at the same point in her house sale but absolutely in love with her new house and now sees that as just a wobble at the time.
Have a good think about pro/cons go back to house and see what your feeling is op.

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 01/04/2018 20:21

The north facing garden would massively put me off. I like to enjoy what little good weather we get

feral · 01/04/2018 20:25

Yes by all means pull out and cost your buyers a huge loss in money already paid and lose your new house's current owners to lose their next property.

There should be laws against this.

vilamoura2003 · 01/04/2018 20:42

This is me - we hear the neighbours and it drives me crazy. They currently have their grandchildren there and there is screaming and banging.

I constantly think about moving to a detached house, but our 3 bed semi (which we extended), size wise is completely fine. I don't need bigger, I just want to be detached. To get detached I need to add about £70k to the mortgage and will leave me with an outstanding mortgage of £220k over at least 20 years. If we stay where we are, we are comfortable. As you say the security of an increased mortgage is a worry.

We have a north west facing garden and it doesn't get much sun until late spring/summer when the sun is higher in the sky. We have a larger back garden so can sit further down the garden for some sunshine - can you maybe make a sun terrace further down the garden.

I know exactly what you are feeling, a symptom or anxiety is the inability to make a decision and stick to it without mithering about whether you have done the right thing - I find it exhausting Confused

Angryosaurus · 01/04/2018 20:58

I know how you feel. We recently moved and I completely love our new house. But still miss our old house terribly 😔. Definitely the right decision to move though

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