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Hate the house i just bought

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Hazzyz · 26/02/2018 16:58

Hi all
Just got my bungalow on Thursday and i hate it
I hate how i only have parking for one space
I hate how the entrance is with no driveway and our neighbors driveway and garage is right infront of my house
And everytime i step into it i hate it even more and not even moved in yet
My OH lives it so much and when i said i hate it o made OH cry as she really likes ot and wanted it since the day we say it.
I been crying myself since the day i bought it regretting going through with it all
Wierd thing is before i got the keys aswell i loved it more than OH but now got the keys i hate it.
I dont know what to do
Only thing thats keeping me going is that my father said if you really dont like it then in a few years sell it and get a different house. But how can i, its a long process isnt it? Or do a lot of people sell ther home when buying a new one?
I myself dont want to even move in to it even though i have spent money buying sofas appliances etc , i said to OH once that i will just sell it but OH wasnt having any of it saying that loves and am it hurts when i say that
I do not know what to do ...🙁🙁🙁

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4yearsnosleep · 26/02/2018 17:02

Houses always look shit when all the furniture etc is gone. I was really upset at how dirty our house was and at how awful the huge raw plugs looked, but we've made it our own. I'm sure you'll love it soon

TheInvisiblePieceofShit · 26/02/2018 17:04

I can empathise. I bought this place out of need than want.

I'm 2 years 3 months down the line and I still hate it.
I lie awake at night worrying no one will buy it from us in a couple of years when we sell.
What has made you switch from liking it to hating it do you think?
I never felt anything for here from the start.

mumblechum0 · 26/02/2018 17:05

I feel your pain; we moved 300 miles into a house I hadn't even seen, because I had to get the kids' schools sorted really quickly before they closed for summer

It was an ugly 50s house in a very pretty village and full of naff avocado bathrooms, plastic light fittings, the cheapest possible doors and woodchip everywhere.

We thought we'd move out quickly but as we wouldn't get relocation expenses for a voluntary move and it was going to cost £80k in stamp duty and all that stuff, decided to just improve it and now really love it (had a major overhaul inside and out).

Maybe just stick with it for a year, and see how you feel? What swung it for us was the location; very friendly village with lots going on in an Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty. Can you see similarly positive points in the location of your bungalow? Could you extend upwards to make it more interesting?

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Hazzyz · 26/02/2018 17:19

The reason i wanted it was the location as from my parents house to there its £3 min in car 7 min walk
I dont know what has made me hate it it just all of a sudden happened all that hate.
I was thinking of sending back for a redund the appliances etc i bought and stick the property on rent for a year or 2 and then sell it if possible but i wont dare say that to OH as i have upsetted oh enough already, and i know i got the property at a good price and apprantly there was a lot of intrest in it too but i just feel like i wouldnt ebem be able to sell it
It has a massive garden which i loved and needs nothing spending on it but i just cant seen to love it
It doesnt feel like home to me.
Maybe its because its a bungalow and not a house? I dont know :/

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MacaroniPenguin · 26/02/2018 17:30

Early days. Settle in and start making it your own. Try not to give any headspace to property porn shows - it's yours, it keeps you warm and dry, it has space for you, your loved ones and your stuff, you don't need to have an emotional relationship with the bricks and mortar.

It'll look a lot brighter and happier come summer. Putting your own stamp on it will help too. We also bought a house I didn't love, and we put a woodburner in which helped. If you can, make sure some of the stuff you're putting in is stuff you really like.

JoJoSM2 · 26/02/2018 17:31

Perhaps you're not reading your own emotions well? It sounds like it could be the stress of moving and having to call this new, unfamiliar place a home etc is getting to you? I hope you feel better soon.

Backingvocals · 26/02/2018 17:34

Don't worry. There's a name for what you've got - buyer's remorse. It's a known phenomenon! You invest so much emotional energy in wanting something and getting through the tedious buying process and then when it's finally yours you think of how much nicer everywhere else is!

Give yourself a bit of time to settle in - make the changes you want to make and accept that nowhere is perfect but you chose it because of the lovely features it does have. Think how much you'll enjoy a beautiful garden when it's not -7000 degrees outside Smile

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Hazzyz · 26/02/2018 18:13

I see what you are all saying but its messed with my head so much now that theres a local property for sale thats been there since 2015 for sale and its £25k cheaper and i actually like that property a lot more than this one now
And i wish i bought that even though OH did say to me ayear ago lets view it and i told her its not nice

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specialsubject · 26/02/2018 18:23

Forget being a landlord, with respect you sound most unsuited to it and could end up in massive financial trouble.

Stop crying and have an adult discussion with your partner.

scurryfunge · 26/02/2018 18:27

I agree with giving yourself time to settle in. Make a list of all the positives (and there will be) and concentrate on making this your home. Dismiss the grass is always greener attitude and start to enjoy the fact you have a home. I’ve just bought a bit of a wreck and there are days when I browse Rightmove to find that perfect property but ultimately I talk myself round with the fact it’s a great location, has lots of potential and we have no deadline for work that needs doing. If you’ve satisfied your basic human needs of shelter, warmth, etc then everything else is a plus.

HughLauriesStubble · 26/02/2018 18:35

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Dodie66 · 26/02/2018 18:38

You say you love the other house that’s for sale but you loved the one you’ve just bought till you moved in. What if you buy the other house then hate that one too? I would try and make the one you are in into a home

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Hazzyz · 26/02/2018 18:40

Specialsubject i hear what your saying
But say i did live there a year or 2 then sold it would i really make a huge loss? Bearing in mind property is worth approx 5-10k more than i paid
Or is it best to just let it go
I think i will have a chat with partner (who actually just said to me what you want to do keep it or sell it in a not so nice way)

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Roomba · 26/02/2018 18:49

I hated my house when I first bought it. I cried the first night wondering what the hell I'd done! 13 years later I'm still here and I love it, quirks and all. It's my bolthole from the world and has many happy memories of my children being tiny here. Even if things keep going wrong with it and everything has a 'knack' to getting it to work properly.

Mamaohana · 26/02/2018 21:52

Calm down! Stop looking at other properties on the market, you’ve bought one now. There are lots of positives about your new home, you got it for a knock down price, your partner loves it and is happy, it’s got a lovely big garden which you can enjoy together over the summer months, it’s nearer your parents so you will benefit from less travelling to visit them. The entrance/driveway thing might be a pain when you arrive at the bungalow but when you are inside it watching tv etc, how much is it really going to bother you? At worst if you never grow to like it bungalows tend to sell well and you said there was lots of other interest in yours so should be ok to sell up in future!

FluffyWuffy100 · 26/02/2018 21:58

Surprisingly common to feel like the.

You’re not in a fit emotional sense to make any decisions about selling the house.

Get it clean. Decorate it. Get your furniture in and pictures on the wall. Invite your friends and family over andhave happy times. Live in it for a year.

Then assess the situation.

MyKingdomForBrie · 26/02/2018 22:03

You sound very much like you don’t really consider you and OH a partnership; is this house just yours or is it for both of you?

You’re really being too hasty, just calm down and give it time.

Viviennemary · 26/02/2018 22:08

This happens more often than you think. Just give it a while as it takes time to get used to change. You need to concentrate on getting the house comfortable and looking nice. And in a couple of years if you're still not happy then think about selling but at least give it a chance.

AgathaF · 27/02/2018 12:14

You sound like you're in a panic over it. How about thinking what you can do to improve it for you, then if you still don't like it when you've made improvements you can put it up for sale again and maybe make a bit on it.

So, what are the bits that you don't like but could change? Paint doors, pretty up the front, decorate inside, add greenery outside? Maybe put some photos up for some advice here?

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Hazzyz · 27/02/2018 17:01

Mykingdomforbrie what do you mean when you say i dont conside me and OH as a partnership. And the house is mine in the sense i paid the deposit etc but in reality its both ours cos its a whats mine is yours kind of thing

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Steamcloud · 27/02/2018 17:07

Poor you op Flowers

Get out the seed catalogues and start planning work in your lovely garden! Spring is nearly here!

PickAChew · 27/02/2018 17:17

DH's first words when we walked up the drive to our house we're "what a shithole!"

He has a way with words.

And yes, it was very unloved and needs lots of tlc, but we're slowly fixing it all and making it feel more homely. The only real issue is that we underestimated how busy the road outside gets in the run up to Christmas, as it's a main road between the city centre and a retail park.

I think it helps in a way if you don't buy a house that needs nothing doing because you have more of an impetus to make it feel like yours.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 28/02/2018 08:05

Bungalows are usually in demand, especially in a good village location.
I think for now, you need to stop thinking about selling and concentrate on making this place a home, for you and your DP.
Start off in one room, complete it, then move on to another room, this way, you'll have one place that feels like home.
Summer will also bring a different feel to the place, sunshine will brighten the rooms, your family can visit, and you can enjoy the lovely garden.
My guess is, you'll both end up loving it, I hope so ! 🍾💐

BasiliskStare · 01/03/2018 14:44

I have two houses - not at the same time I hasten to add - where I cried because I hated them when we bought them ( having chosen them) - in both cases I cried 10 years later because we were leaving them ( wimp - me? ;) ) Give it some time. Moving is stressful and expensive and as others have alluded to , it's not really surprising you are feeling wobbly. I wish you well

BasiliskStare · 01/03/2018 14:45

"have had " not "have" - that would give a completely false idea of my property ownership !