Feeling down about my house?

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Me, my DH and baby boy are living in the house me and DH have been in for years. It’s 3 bedroom (2 of the rooms are tiny) with a good size living room and kitchen downstairs, and small garden.
This is going to sound so shallow. But everyone seems to have nicer houses than us, and always seem to take pleasure in shower them off to us. Extensions, multiple bathrooms (rather than our one bathroom and shower over bath.. don’t even have a seperate shower)... I gave up work to look after DS and that was the choice we made.. I would rather have time with DS as a baby than have a fancy house, but I don’t know what I’m getting at.. do you ever just feel like everyone is better than you in terms of their houses and like to remind you lol?

I remember all the houses around me having kitchen or loft extensions.
Thinking, that's very nice but we don't need it.

Just remember, true friends and relatives come to see you and not your 'skirting boards'.

This may not be helpful but I have a shower over my bath that I can't get in without swinging my legs over my toilet which I also have to sit in to use my sink I have basically no kitchen with all appliances in an outhouse and single chopping board sized work surface and looking like il end up sleeping in living room on a sofa bed as the box room 2nd room in my 2 bed for me and 2 kids) is so small I can't even fit a single bed in there for myself to sleep in never mind try squishing the kids into that room your house sounds like a paradise island compared to mine don't let people make you feel like you have less however I get it as I was homeless for 3 years and still hate my house with a passion we always want better for our family's but sometimes just enough to live comfortably which it sounds like you have is all you really need

Go and do some volunteer work with Shelter, the homeless charity. It's a really sobering experience.
I know, your world gets really small when you are at home with your baby, I remember it well. But try and see a bigger perspective, you are really fortunate on so many levels.
I'm not trying to patronise you, but you would be having a better experience of it if you managed to be more outward looking.
Enjoy your baby.

This makes me sound ancient (now in my early 40s!) but when I grew up in the 80s in a nice village, very few of my friends' families had ensuites, separate shower cubicles, downstairs loos, landscaped gardens, posh kitchens, cleaners etc. It was also very common for same sex siblings to share bedrooms. However they all had nice, comfy, warm and welcoming houses. You need to concentrate on trying to love your current home and make it homely for your child.

More space = more cleaning =less time to enjoy dc!!
We live in an old ramshackle big house that's always a tip, and draughty, dc friends come here to see them not a show home!

I feel the same tbh. Our house has been a construction site for 2.5 years and is the worst house for things breaking. There is not very good storage units, so there is stuff everywhere. Some of the doors in the upstairs go out onto the landing so when we are all doing baths, cleaning up etc we all trip over each other. We have a bathroom in the loft which is unused and we are storing baby stuff in the bath! Getting a tradie to come in and finish it off is difficult because of the time to organise, the unreliability and their inability to do the job you want / or finish the job. I am a SAHP with demanding DCs so I don't even get a minute to sort it out ourselves. I don't invite people over as I am too embarrassed. BUT having travelled, I know we are very very lucky to have what we have and as long as we are warm, dry, clean and fed then we are good. It's such a shame that when we go to sell the house other people will expect more. It's bad but true. :/

It's all swings and roundabouts though isn't it OP.
Being happy is more important than a nice house.
Your friends with bigger houses etc might have huge mortgages or debts.

Try not to compare. Saying that I live in a tiny house AND I work AND I have a long commute. The SAHM's/PT mum's from my dc's school live in houses twice as big as mine. Sometimes I feel a bit crap when my dc ask when we are moving to a bigger house as they would like more space