Hi everyone,
I am really hoping that you can help me make the best decision.
I have a real diliema after a pretty turbulent and horrendous few months/years.
I am single and on a low income. I have always struggled on min wage and had financial problems in the past.
I don't have parents or family to help me out and owning my own home is not an option.
I have had a horrendous few years and have faced one struggle after another. I am currently suffering with depression and trying to 'deal' with it without medication with mindfulness/meditation, exercise, yoga etc. I dont want to take anti-depressants. I am waiting for counselling at the moment.
Sorry I digress!!...... So I relocated from my home town last year when I received a promotion/transfer opportunity with my employer. The opportunity came at the right time for me as I needed a change of scene due to some less than happy memories in my hometown. The offer was too good to pass up so even though it meant upheaval and moving away from what I knew I took it.
However I never really 'settled' in my new place and things have turned bad. I was dismissed three weeks ago because I raised a genuine grievance against an employee. My union representative and solicitors say that I have a good case for unfair dismissal and I am currently going through the conciliation stage with ACAS.
So.... my housing issue.... I am currently renting a room in a home with the owner. It is a gorgeous home but I am really unhappy here.
First of all, the owner, male, is a big chavanist, he totally loves himself and sees women as "second class citizens" (his actual words) he is great sometimes but his moods are ridiculous.
I am immaculate, yet nothing is ever good enough. He criticizes all the time. Also his girlfriend and her noisy kid stays all the tine.....i feel as though its not my home sometimes. He has his 3 other kids staying during the hols and almost every weekend so I never have any peace.... I know the child can't help it and I don't want to be mean, but the one boy has learning disabilities and screams and cries constantly. I find myself going out just to avoid them.
The owner has also "come onto" me and is very suggestive sometimes which makes me uncomfortable. He is very disrespectful and speaks to women like they are dirt.
I usually stay in my room and don't actually socialise with him anymore.
Also because of the job situation, I am going to have a issue paying my rent next month which is not going to go down well.
I am also concerned about lack of security because I don't have a tenancy agreement.
So I have been thinking about moving back near to my hometown and looking for a new job back there. I feel as though I need to be near friends etc at the moment because I need and miss them and I need support at the moment.
So I applied for a small flat with a local housing association in the town next to my hometown. I received a call this morning that I have been offered the property.
I have a meeting on Wednesday to discuss it and I will find out more.
It is a no brainer to be honest..... but I guess that I am scared that another change won't work out and I won't be happy.
The flats are brand new 1 bedroom flats in a block of about 8 or 10....they look very nice with new kitchens and bathrooms....but there is absolutely nothing there. No appliances, No carpets, No furniture etc. I can't afford any of those rhibgs at the moment and I am worried that I will feel more depressed because I am living in a 'dump' at first.
Arrrrgggghh.....i hate having to make decisions like this!
Any help or advice would be so appreciated.
Thank you.