Reigate, Sevenoaks or Tunbridge Wells?

[Nooyorknoooyorkkkkkk]

Quite like all these places but no one is winning over the other. Any info or insider opinion about which place would suit best?
DH needs to commute pretty much daily to the city. Long hours. I'm freelance but may need to be in as well 1-2 day a week.
Two young preschool kids.
£1m budget.
State primaries. Prefer good state secondaries but would consider private.
Need to be somewhere with some character and life. Friendly community feel. Lots to do both for kids and us.
Prefer period do-re upper home.
Hmm think that's it!
Thank youuuuuuu.

I think I misspelled it, Arraminta is a v v posh girl's name. I knew a few growing up, they always owned ponies, went skiing in Davos every year and had swishy swishy posh girl hair.

Hi @Nooyorknoooyorkkkkkk - can ask what you landed on? I am moving home to Kent from Melbourne with my family (two pre-schoolers) and have EXACTLY the same predicament weighing commutes to London/Schools/Community between TW, Tonbridge and Sevenoaks. Where did you go/what's your view/did you get the school you want? School admission's seem frightening!
Thanks!