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Fedup of this house sale

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essex1979 · 28/04/2015 06:45

Just come on here in as a slightly annoymous way of sharing my experiences. I'm an adult living at home with my parents, I love the house, road, area we live in, and am very loathe to move. We've had 3 1/2 years of the usual time wasters, no shows, slightly rude people etc bar a 8 mnth gap all with same agent. A tad stressy and disruptive, I wrk from home 2. We had a couple in Jan that we had no feedback on, lady didnt even properly look at things. Rung up 11 Apr with an offer, well offered 3 times reluctantly, could sense was a bit tight and he messed about a bit saying things were final offers etc. Was pretty low but parents accepted.We hrd then his wife wasnt interested, he was quite keen. Mustve changed her mind but she hasnt been back since, he came bk but on his own to ask qs most would ask before an offer, and check things out because it was small, asked about extending and stuff. After his first view he said he might come back with a builder as it only has 4 bedrooms. No idea what his plans are but he hasnt had a survey done or come with a builder. Bit odd given its a mortgage and a bit to risk on our price house, which is getting to the point it will need some wrk done. Anyway had solicitors mail up until 14th, couple of phonecall qs after that, but otherwise been very quiet from sol and EA, apart from mortgage valuation coming back lower, they almost had to pull out over extra money they didnt have, then wouldnt proceed because their Sol had duff info about planning permission we didnt need....fensa cert on order instead and screenshot of entry sent to them. Wouldve thought they carry on with wrk but wouldnt exchange without all the certificates, was also expecting more qs our end etc even if no checks etc were requested. Also our neighbour had to answer a load of complex qs on our residents assoc, only couple of days ago he told me was still getting letters....well that may have stopped tho even if he had them more than a few days before seeing me they are still fairly recent....so pretty surprised to hear sol assistant had rung saying we're hoping to exchange today.....do they ever get it wrong, could it be a sol assistant their end thinking they are ready but theyre not?? Seems pretty quick although about 6 1/2 wks since offer we had no updates and qs resulting from earlier documents. I know some are quick but my sis was 1 in a chain with a new build and got a big wadge of paper to read before signing contract.....we were expecting more.

Anyway house was on market because they saw a house all that time ago. That was out the pic ages ago, but they say theyll rent then look for somewhere. Not much about on either score and as an anxiety sufferer doesnt help. I'm hoping they might pull out last minute but slimmer hopes... I also think if parents had upgraded house gradually starting yrs ago, been here 30, we wouldnt be moving. Im not the only one who thinks our buyer is odd in way he's done things, but we at present have no place to go to, and every instinct tells me my wrk could suffer, and parents just say tough, natural reply when its their choice to move.

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JellyMould · 28/04/2015 06:58

Surely if they offered on 11th April that's 2 weeks ago, not 6 weeks ago.

Eastpoint · 28/04/2015 07:05

Do you think your parents are moving to try and encourage you to move out? They've given you three years notice & you are still there. I sound harsh but if they've been there 30 years & you run a business I presume you aren't 18,19. Do you contribute much to bills etc? Apologies if there are reasons why you cannot live independently.

wowfudge · 28/04/2015 07:27

Sorry OP, but your post reeks of you being someone who doesn't want to move! You've had a lot of time to get used to the idea and I can see that given the length of time the house has been on the market your parents haven't wanted to count their chickens in looking for a new place.

coolaschmoola · 28/04/2015 07:36

It is 'tough' though. Your username indicates that you are almost forty... Sorry, but your parents should be making choices that meet THEIR needs and wants - children come first until they are grown... Which you are.

wowfudge · 28/04/2015 07:42

And the probable reason for no updates more recently has probably been due to waiting for searches to come back.

essex1979 · 28/04/2015 08:40

Sorry meant 11th March not April bu tthe legal stuff didnt properly start until after that so I guess technically less time than that. You're right I dont want to move for multiple reasons, loving the house rd and area, but where we are is covenient for everything, esp as someone who walks or bikes everywhere. I suffer from anxiety and mild agoraphobia and for other reasons couldnt move out even if I wanted to live alone, but living at home means I can persue being a freelance writer and crafter. I also wrk as a small aside for Betterware so know this area very well. Oh yes giving the timewasting looking for new places on back burner, but with that and having no idea where you'll end up or when, and how many times you'll move isnt much fun.

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Unexpected · 28/04/2015 11:30

I'm not actually even sure what your question is at the end of all that? Are you actually asking if it is likely that your parents will exchange today? Well, if the solicitor says yes, then quite possibly. Have they/you talked about a completion date?

It sounds as if you are hoping the whole thing will fall through and you don't have to face moving. Your parents are perfectly entitled to do whatever they want with their home and it's unfair of you to expect them to put their lives on hold for ever because you don't want to leave.

essex1979 · 28/04/2015 12:31

The buyers have given a completion date of 31st July, no real discussion, they wanted a date to suit them and to enable them to get money together.

Not expecting my parents to put their lives on hold - doesn't stop me as an adult questioning some of their reasons for moving, and being pretty convinced it wouldn't be happening if we'd gradually upgraded the place years ago. In the best possible way I do hope it fails because I think there's more chance we'd end up staying in the area we all love. But it is unsettling, I've no idea if we'll be able to buy or if we'll move twice, and it could affect work and my life quite a bit, especially if we end up on the other side of town. Where we are now is easy for everything and enables me a lot of independence for getting about, getting to my sisters etc, and I've been working in it since 2002 for Betterware, so hoping I keep my round and don't have to deal with a new manager and area I don't know at all on top of everything else.

Guess just gauging opinion really rather than question. In a place I can voice my thoughts.

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RaphaellaTheSpanishWaterDog · 28/04/2015 13:12

Gosh OP, I don't mean to be harsh but at the end of the day surely this is your parents' issue not yours? As someone clearly adult enough to be running a business - not sure if your user name is so indication of your age or not - I'd have expected you to want your own place rather than be stuck at home with mum and dad.

We (both 48) have a DS of 25 who left home to attend university a couple of weeks after his 18th and hasn't returned to live at home since. We both miss like crazy (still!) but are very happy that he has his independence. When he left home we had a large six bedroom house where he had his own living room for him and his friends - as well as an entertainment space he created himself in the cellar - so it wasn't as though we were short of room.

Apart from one (male) friend, I don't think any of his school/uni friends are still living at home.

Obviously affording a place of one's own is difficult - more so in the SE where we're from - but even so with several sources of income I'd have thought it might be a viable option.

All I know is that as much as we'd have loved DS to stay living at home a little longer, we'd not have expected him to interfere with our plans to move if that was on the cards....

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