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Why is this? New house worries

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HouseAnxiety · 09/04/2015 08:14

We're just waiting to exchange contracts.

During the day I feel excited about move but it also sort of feels like it won't happen!

At night time I am having is panic attacks about moving.

Does this happen to everyone?

Haven't started packing or anything. Feel completely daunted about all the things we have to do Hmm

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NoraLouca · 09/04/2015 08:19

I have to go and exchange contracts in about an hour... haven't slept a wink all night, can't eat any breakfast and am now on MN in order to try to calm down Grin

I think it's normal, tis a big decision after all! Maybe try to list all that you have to do and decide where to start, once you've started packing you'll just get on with it and it won't seem so daunting!

NoPsipsinaChocolateOrange · 09/04/2015 08:40

Would it help maybe to start packing? Just stuff you never use much - ornaments, emptying a few cupboards, will make you feel much more in control.

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HouseAnxiety · 09/04/2015 09:08

Good luck Nora!

I think I've been avoiding packing as I just don't feel that it will really happen.

We don't have a date for exchange yet but I know that isn't far off now. Where to start tho?
Dreading all the craziness!

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33goingon64 · 09/04/2015 09:12

This is exactly how I felt. At night I'd lie there sweating over whether we'd made the right decision, whether I'd miss the old house and area too much, was it worth moving to a new place JUST for more space and better standard of living Hmm Then in cold light of day I'd feel much more sure. As I turns out I DO miss the old place but still think we did the right thing. Good luck

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HouseAnxiety · 09/04/2015 09:49

Thanks 33. As it happens, we are only moving 5 miles from where we live. However I feel freaked out about living somewhere new.

We don't have to change DC school or anything. Yet at night I feel like I'm moving to the moon.

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meadowquark · 09/04/2015 13:24

I had the same feeling, going back and forth, feeling excited and terrified about the move (only 2.5 miles away). It has been a week since I moved. It is actually ok, and better than I thought it will be, though deep down I always knew it was going to be OK (considered pulling out numerous times, but did not).

To easy the moving stress I hired packers and went for a day out/restaurant with my family> they did a brilliant job. Settling in was a bit more stressful as bits and bobs did not work (gas leak etc.) and we had to use emergency services. Have useful contacts handy.

Listen to your gut feeling. I pulled out of purchases before, but this one I stick with and already feeling much better. I considered staying put but that would have been just dragging my feet for the inevitable.

You will be OK. Trust me.

Onecurrantbun · 09/04/2015 15:30

I cried, fretted and nearly pulled out of our move earlier this year. We were only moving a few roads (can literally see the houses from each other) but it felt so bittersweet. We were leaving the first house we'd lived in together, where DH carried me over the threshold, where we brought our girls back to when they were born... etc.

Within a few days I had made the new house home. 9 weeks on I barely think about the old one although it was perfect and decorated just how we like. I know in time we will make just as many happy memories here

Have you thought about a packing service? We only paid c.£150 extra on top of the cost of the lorry. Easier to unpack, too, as they did I so methodically.

Good luck with the move xx

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HouseAnxiety · 09/04/2015 16:32

We've been talking about having someone pack for us.

First we need to sort through stuff!!
Spent the whole day sorting and only got through the kids bits. And not all their stuff!

My brother is coming to pick up some toys and books tomo. There's about 7 massive bags. Feels so wasteful.

What to do next?

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HouseAnxiety · 09/04/2015 16:34

Nora, do you have a completion date?

Btw, when you gave people pack for you, do they dismantle furniture too?

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LastNightADJSavedMyLife · 09/04/2015 16:40

Get a packing service. It's amazing.

Yes they dismantle anything they can't move in one piece and put it back up - well ours did.

NoraLouca · 09/04/2015 17:50

I'm not in the UK and got the terms confused in English - today was not exchange of contracts but completion. It's done now and all doubts have gone, sooo made up Grin Not moving for another month as work needs doing first, but the house is mine (spent all afternoon at work trying not to jump up and down squealing I ve got a house Grin ) unable to give coherent advice this evening as too excited!

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HouseAnxiety · 10/04/2015 00:10

Yay Nora!!!

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Graceymac · 11/04/2015 00:25

I used a removal service that provided a packing service too, cost an extra few hundred but worth it. Whole 4 bed house packed in a day. I got a cleaner to go in afterwards too! Well had 3 children under 4 at the time!

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