Thanks again, Piglet.
Why do you think we need a new boiler? I don't think it is that old - I think the gas fire was fitted in the last 5 years (I will check paperwork, we were given it with the house)
I'm afraid I don't get what this means at all: "You can turn TRVs up and down if you want to, but it is best to have the max and min fixed inside the knob" - see I told you I was stupid!
I am not sure they are what we need at all, maybe we just need very simple on / off knobs replaced on the valves.
On the cake thing: to torture the metaphor (perhaps to death) I see the "whole house constant temperature" thing as being like having the oven always at 200 in case you want to make a cake, and not allowing for the times you don't want to cook anything, or perhaps want to make meringues.
I actively like a cold bedroom. I would be happy to have the radiator off there all the time except maybe an hour each on a Saturday and Sunday morning.
Certainly don't want it on at 5.30pm when the kids come in, I will not even be popping my head round the door of my bedroom till 11pm (I wish)
If we are watching a film on a freezing rainy Sunday afternoon, are we not allowed to put the radiator on in the sitting room and turn the others off? No one is in any of the other rooms; the oven might be on, heating the kitchen, so when we go and eat dinner that room is warm anyway....
I think the orthodoxy of "pick a temperature, set the thermostat, and stick to it" is outdated, based on a time when people could afford to do this. I can't, but I actually hate the feel of uniformly hot houses in winter anyway (weirdo)