Given how much we all hate noisy neighbours give me advice on how not to be noisy

[LaurieFairyCake]

About to move into an attached house, next to a young family - who have had an empty house there for a year (elderly person who died)

We are going to be noisier than the dead guy

And I haven't lived in an attached house for ten years so have probably got used to being a bit noisier - dog plus teenager with drums/keyboards

Also going to be doing building work and a lot of putting up shelves and drilling in the first few weeks.

How can we minimise our impact? What would you like?

I'd like the dog never to bark, but if you are there most of the time that shouldn't be a problem.

I would like the teenager to use headphones for ALL music.

building work and drilling is fine if done at considerate hours - you won't be doing it forever. One way to start off on the right foot is to say hello to the neighbours, explain you have some DIY and work to do but it will only last for 'x' and ask what times are least intrusive for them.

but if they have a baby or an elephantine toddler they should be live and let live types!

Most houses are attached. Don't worry about your noise (as long as it's not insanely loud) I'm sure they won't

Family noise is fine, it you live in an attached house it's part of life. However, a barking dog would have me on the phone to environmental health/ landlord within a couple of days.

Just be thoughtful. E.g. loud TVs late at night/early in the morning, stamping up and down stairs, drums . If you wouldn't like it next to you, the neighbours probably won't enjoy it either.

I would love it if you moved next to us! We are attached to a grumpy old couple who in the past banged on the walls, shouted and swore at us and threatened the kids. We got the police involved and it stopped. They have threatened us that they put house on market and we'd be stuck with a family (we have two kids under 4) and we said if only!!! We are not quiet (how can we be?!) and would love to hear life being lived next door as then we wouldn't stress about the noise our children make. (They used to hammer on walls at 10pm when my daughter woke up crying from a bad dream!)! So I agree - if your neighbours are a family you'll be fine!

The dog is one of the reasons for the building work - he's very elderly, deafish and has horrible separation anxiety which will be exacerbated by moving.

So we're building a room ( conservatory) which won't be attached so he can be in there if we go out - we are in a lot though and I take him out with me the vast majority of the time as he loves the car.

He'll not live long though, maybe a year if we're lucky.

The TV is already going on the wall that's not attached so is the furthest from their wall.

There can't be headphones for the teenage music practise as she'll try and skive it if I can't hear - but she does it for 30 minutes before 6pm every day so hopefully won't be too much of an imposition.

doesn't sound too bad with the music or the dog in that case. The one will move on to the great dog basket in the sky and the other will give up!

You absolutely lovely considerate person! I wish you were moving in next to me. DP and I have lived for 6 years with the noisiest asshole person in the world in the flat above us and it's driven us both to insanity and beyond.

TV/radio at a reasonable volume
If you're having noisy work done, pop round and have a quick chat with neighbours or pop a note through their letterbox to let them know how long you expect it to last. Our downstairs neighbours did this when before they moved in and we really appreciated it.
Ditto for daily 6pm drum practice - let the neighbours know about this in advance
Don't slam doors internal or external doors - this is something easily done but it's unbelievably annoying to have to listen to it from next door!

Enjoy your new house