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tanukiton · 30/01/2013 22:11

I am not sure if this should go in DIY or relationships!
So my husband has told me not to talk about this anymore but I feel we are making a HUGE mistake and need to vent.

The background
We are in Japan and just bought a second hand house. House not retain their value only land here, so any money spent on the house won?t be recouped.

The kitchen and bathroom need replacing. My husband wants mid range bathroom , heated flooring for the kitchen and living room .

I said let?s live in it and see what needs doing and do it up gradually. This has turned into let?s do the bathroom, flooring and leave the kitchen( until an un specified time). The kitchen is old and it will be taken out and put back in for the flooring to go in! I would like flooring but am happy to wait.

The problem is the bathroom is in the wrong place and the kitchen is way too dark. It has one slit window that is below my eye height! So every where I look is wall and darkness. It has two skylight windows.

The lay out at the moment is North wall and east so it goes. North kitchen along , Bathroom, toilet and living room . Running across the East wall. The living room has a South facing window. The rest are all internal walls.
I think is should be bathroom, toilet kitchen/living combined.

To put in the new bathroom we have to break one wall anyway. I know moving the waste and gas isn?t going to be cheap but we are installing gas as well.

BUT I ask him to get a quote for swapping the rooms round and he said that the reform company haven?t got back to him. We complete on the 20th of feb and they will start installing the bathroom after that.
I really want to talk about it and he is stone walling me WHAT DO I DO???

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tanukiton · 30/01/2013 22:11

sorry that is sooo long

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wendybird77 · 30/01/2013 23:13

No advice really, but can you get your own quotes? Leave him be about it (for the moment) - and sort out quotes for how you think it should be done. Then at least you can approach it from a logical and fact-based point of view. Is this your forever house or just for the time being? That would be a big deciding factor for me. I do agree that it would be best to live in the house for a while and get a feel for it.

tanukiton · 31/01/2013 03:09

thank you Wendy. It is to be our forever house hence me getting a bit argh. The problem is I can see that the bath does need doing. It is small and has an electric heating system.We are going to change over to a gas boiler. I think i just need to see the quotes on paper so that i can tell myself ok it is way over budget so impossible. But it seems stupid to go ahead with the bathroom without checking out the cost of the kitchen. I feel i am banging my head against a (badly made partioned) wall.... I think you are right about just getting the quotes from elsewhere.

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lalalonglegs · 31/01/2013 10:09

I think if the house is habitable (even if it is awkward and poorly designed), you should stay in it for a while and then do the remodelling/refurbishing. I've no idea how good/bad Japanese builders are - I'm hoping they are a bit more professional and industrious than British ones - but you could get the basics of the work done over the summer while you (and children if you have any) are away on holiday and once you have really thought through the plans.

YY to getting your own quotes done.

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