thanks, I think I know the sort you mean, like www.santon.co.uk/301.htm
I am puzzled that you have such poor water flow upstairs. Usually this sort of cylinder (similar to a Megaflo but with a separate expansion) is fed at mains pressure, and the flow and pressure are good in a modern house.
The flow at your kitchen sink cold tap is unusually poor. It is a useful guide because it is the most that you can expect to get from any tap in a pressurised system.
It is worth looking at the tank in the loft, to see if it is e.g. 18"x12"x12" in which case it wil just be a feed and expansion for the boiler, or if it is larger and fills when you run a tap, in which case it is supplying the tap water, which would be rather strange with a pressurised cylinder, but does at least give you the option to have a pump fitted.
If yours was an old house, I would suspect that it had an old, undersized incoming water main, but a fairly new house with a pressurised cylinder ought to have a large plastic incoming main, coloured blue, and at least 25mm external diameter, with a stop cock of the same size. Have a look and see if yours does. If the internal pipes, after the stopcock, are in a smaller size, typically 15mm copper, they will restrict the flow to some extent, but yours sounds unusually bad. Look for all stopcocks and service valves, including the one in the front garden and the one attached to the water meter, and verify that they are all fully open, then backed off half a turn (this prevents them seizing). If you have ball-o-fix valves these will restrict the flow unless you have the less common full-bore ones.
I am thinking of a plumbing problem, rather than a boiler problem, so if you can get a recommendation for an experienced local person to look at the pipework, he should be able to identify the problem. If any work is needed on the cylinder (unlikely because your cold flow is also poor) you will need a person with a certificate to work on pressurised cylinders, this is a qualification that some heating engineers have. A local plumber will also know if you live in an area with poor water pressure.
Nothing you have described suggests a problem with the boiler.
Do you have a water softener?