I'm selling my teeny flat because we need more space (can't fit a single bed into the second bedroom) and would like a garden. I'm buying with my DP for the first time. A few months ago we had an offer accepted on a slightly dilapidated Victorian semi round the corner but the delays caused by the multitude of surveys required by the bank (who still haven't agreed a mortgage offer!) have given me cold feet. My DP is raring to go on the decorating front but there's still work we'll have to get builders, plumbers, electricians etc in to do and that'll all take months. We won't have any cash left over once we move in so it'll all have to be saved each month and leave us with no social life.
AIBU to think that the stress of the renovation over a number of years could ruin our relationship? I am v nervous of juggling this with a FT job, 5yo DS, potentially starting a degree as it's required by my work plus maybe thinking about another baby. BUT it's a good opportunity to buy somewhere much larger than we could otherwise afford and should be able to add value to.
Or should I buy somewhere that isn't falling down around our ears, won't take over our weekends with DIY for the next 5 years and tell DP to get another hobby?
I am going round in circles, any thoughts or experience would be helpful please.