What would you do? (has ended up as long post - bear with me...)

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Currently sitting in borrowed 2 bedroom flat due to twunt estate agent who put us into situation where if we didn't move out of our lovely house before being able to move into the new one, we'd lose sale. Should be exchanging on purchase any day. BUT - I don't really want to buy the new house. Not sure if this is feeling generally blah about whole house moving thing - you know, coming to terms with leaving home of 17 years (despite having been ready to move for several years). Or if I feel blah about whole thing cos stuck in flat and in limbo and feeling rootless. Or is it because new house is right at very top of our budget, 3 times the size of old house and once 15 year old DS moves on, DH & I will rattle around in it, and the garden is v small? Also is on posh road - not sure if I'll feel comfortable living there, or the judgy-pants assumptions people will make about me with that address.

One other house on market on road I'd rather live on but is much smaller (and cheaper) - would need extension which could be done, but we deliberately made offer on house that needed no work as we don't have time.

Got cold feet about new house at Easter, went to look round and fell back in love with it. Don't want to get in touch with agent for another viewing as same twunt that messed up our sale. Can't help feeling we should have asked a lot more questions about new house (but have several sets of friends on road, vendors have been there 27 years and completely re-vamped 5 years ago, so it appears everything they've done has been for themselves so done properly).

DH can't bear thought of re-starting buying process with another property and he has done all paperwork etc I can see where he's coming from. If we pull out of purchase we'll have to find somewhere to rent and end up in temporary accommodation for at least another six months, so will feel even more blah about not being settled.

Or should I accept that new home is lovely (it is) and we're lucky to be able to (just about) afford it? (actually - think that's the answer, but what do you all think?)

I think it sounds as if you are just getting generally fed up of the whole process (understandable!) and in between all the stress and hassle you are going through, you are finding it difficult to remember how much you did love the house.

It is a strange concept buying property, the one item we are likely to spend the most cash on in our lifetime is often a place where we've had two 30 minute viewings and that's it! I'm sure once you get to see it again and know you own it you'll feel much better.

I would make another viewing - say you want to measure up for something.

Ask the questions when you are back in there, and see what the answer is.

How much does the money factor in your feelings? Are you getting twitchy because you feel too close to the limit, or is that an excuse to legitimise cold feet about something else?

I think if you can get to the root of what it is that is troubling you then you will be able to see if the house is the problem or if its the being stuck in limbo.

Yes I agree - make up any excuse to go for another viewing. Too much is at stake not to.

Another vote for another viewing here.

I agree. I viewed the house we just bought 5 times before putting in an offer and then 3 more times before we completed. I wanted to be sure!

Thank you for your wise words - agree we need to organise another viewing, but OH (who is v busy at work) wants to do it after we've exchanged). The real problem is that I can't work out why I'm feeling ambivalent about this. I can come up with lots of reasons for and against, but can't work out the reason for the funny feeling in my tummy.... (maybe that was the tub of Ben & Jerrys??)

It's a big change so its understandable you will be worrying whether you have done the right thing. 15 years ago my dadmoved from a tiny 2 bed cottage to a 5 storey town house in posh area. The first day we were there he said he was missing the cottage and wondering what he had done, but it has become his home,and he loves it now. It just takes time i think. Good luck!

I think it is potentially the time delay/hassle that has taken its toll. We have been trying to move for nearly a year. We are, I hope!, pretty close (this month) and I really cannot be arsed. I have no desire to do it, I am not excited at the prospect, despite the fact this is something I have wanted for a long time. All I see now are the negatives, but I think that is beacuse it has taken so long and been so stressful, that I am worn out. I am hoping the day/week I move in things will be different...... :)