She doesn't want to buy it anymore

[Rhydderch]

Today, our buyer of our house pulled out after three months of dicking around. Her reason, she doesn't want it anymore.

Now I know in the grand scheme of things, my situation is miniscule. But why do I feel so disappointed?

I think that I feel let down that a person could be so indifferent to us and everyone else in the chain. She doesn't care. I think that what hurts the most. We have bent over backward to help her, we have dropped the price and she just.... I don't really know what to say.

Please tell me that this disappointment will fade. I know that I am lucky that my husband has a good job and the kids are healthy but at this moment I feel so shit.

But on the plus side, I am cleaning the house, so the house will sparkle!

Buying and selling property is an emotional rollercoaster, of course you feel disappointed. We're going through the whole process as well and as much as I want to restrain myself and not get my hopes up too high before the papers are signed, mentally I've already moved out and decorated our new place!

Swear a few times in a discrete place, kick a pillow around the house and then continue looking forward to the next buyer. And good luck, hopefully it will all work out for you soon!

House selling and buying is the stuff of nightmares - you have my sympathy.

If it makes you feel any better - we put our house on the market end of October (need to relocate to be closer to DD's hospital for ongoing health issues) having moved into rented at the end of August in new location. We dropped the price #25k in Feb to just below what we paid for it and got a buyer the next day at that price - fantastic!! Was a husband buying for him and wife who works overseas - he was certain she would love it they had a long talk about it, nothing to sell, keen to move etc. A week later they pulled out - she didn't like it....

Two weeks later at which point we had had around 30+ viewings we dropped the price again by another #15k - lots more viewings, people interested but couldn't proceed - eventually got an offer #30k below that price (so #45k below last offer) - as we were desperate we said come up #5k and meet our timescales and you have a deal - they declined....

Had several people since then who were keen and looked about to offer and then bought something else..... Finally last week we had an offer #10k below current asking price from very keen buyers in a short chain - we accepted although I'm very wary of being in a chain from past experience.......At this point we had had 60+ viewings - I'm so glad we aren't living there I'd have gone potty by now with 2 LO's!!

I hope you find another buyer soon - the market is better now than it was at the beginning of the year - but I totally understand your stress and upset!! I cannot understand how people can string you along and then pull out close to exchange - how do they sleep at night???

I know your stress Rhydderch and feel for you. We had to pull out of house purchase and sale last year as suddenly DH got put on notice of redundancy. I was so disappointed and just shut down and went to bed for a whole evening. We did pick ourselves up again and actually DH didn't get made redundant but by then it was too late. So house back on market but didn't get any sensible offers. Now we're sold again and it's been 11 weeks but the buyers are messing around. Close to exchange but now they want extra surveys and last minute viewing and I'm sure they are having second thoughts. It's not much compared to the terrible things that happen to other people but it's stressful, especially with children.

I have sort of moved on.

It's hard and perhaps I am overthinking with the kids. Daughter is in the West End in a show (so maybe she is a bit thick skinned) and son just wants an easy life.

Just want the kids to be happy. But they are unhappy when mum is unhappy so perhaps the best thing is to chill.

Tis hard but I shall try!

Been there!!!
It's hell. We were all set to move, lost house, survey cost bla bla.
Been through lots more stupidness since, (fist sold in August 2010.) and now got a full asking price offer, 10K over what we were happy to get, if it meant getting things moving.
Still not looking at houses till we KNOW this is going to get through.
Doesn't matter how well off you tell your self you are, healthy, solvent, got a roof over your head, children OK etc, it hits really hard and you feel incredibly let down. The system in this country is pretty rubbish when it comes to selling and buying houses. Good luck.