Please help I'm panicing and need someone to talk sense

[abirdinthehand]

We're supposed to by buying a house - we gave up a life we loved in a big city because we were struglling financially and the schools were bad, and we're moving to a small rural market town near my parents. We've sold our old house and we've been living with my folks for 6 months now, which has been hard, but now our new house has nearly gone through I'm panicing whether we've done the right thing, whether the schools will be ok for the kids, whether we'll make friends and be happy - I'm just emotionally exhausted by it all and I'm worried I've screwed up my family by dragging them all here. :0(

I know exactly what you mean - we finally managed to move in December, we're really happy and I still can't stop worrying about whether it was the right thing to do. The school thing in particular worries me, especially as it got downgraded by ofsted this week! All that research...sigh...

Anyway, I think the worrying is natural. We can't help it and there's no way of knowing if we would have been better off doing something different. You must have had good reasons for moving. Once you're in the house it will feel more real I bet. Try not to panic.

I don't know if it's the same for you but I did most of the research, house hunting, looking at areas and schools etc so I feel like the success of this whole thing is on my head. We shouldn't feel like that though!

I think when you have got young children it is the perfect time in your life to make new and long lasting friends. Apart from my neighbours thisis how I made all of myfriends in the area we live in.
Good luck, you'll be fine!

We moved out of London to a largeish village in the country last summer, mainly for the children and the reasons you describe. My two are 6 and 3, and they have completely adjusted to their new life, they love their school and the space and the ability to do nice things at the weekend. The move was 100% the best thing we have ever done for them.

I have found the whole meeting new people thing an effort, but everyone has been welcoming and its been easier than I thought.

Nerves are natural when you are about to commit, but I am sure you will all be really happy.