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Neighbours "garden" enroaching on ours. How to offer to go halves?

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Gentleness · 07/12/2010 11:20

Well, not a garden, but a side passage way that stretches down the length of our garden then across the back of the garden of the lady who lives in between us to give this neighbour front-to-back access...

And DEFINITELY would never qualify as a garden - 7 to 10 feet tall brambles, weeds, bindweed especially.

It extends 1foot above our fence at the lowest point and 4 foot at the highest. The brambles and bindweed grow through our fence, damaging it in some places and making the border on that side of our garden useless.

When we eventually found out she owned it (previous owner had to sign some doc saying she didn't know who owned it but had always had right of way as far as her/our gate), she said she was looking to clear it to do some work on her garden. That was August 2009, just after we moved in.

We asked her what she had in mind in spring 2010 when it became clear how much it affected our garden. She didn't want to discuss it, so we made it clear it was affecting us and left it at that, suspecting it was a money thing.

Again asked in July and she told us she couldn't afford it, it wasn't a priority, it wasn't her problem and not to talk to her about it again as it stressed her out. Fair enough - and we were conscious that because we were having building work done, she might assume we were rolling in it (not true) and feel sensitive. So we left it.

But I need to get going on that border this spring. And I can't realistically make any difference until those weeds are properly dealt with.

We got quotes to clear and remove the waste - the cheapest being £190 (not including weedkiller afterwards) and want to offer to herr that we pay half and for the weedkiller, and do all the organising (with her permission) so she doesn't have the hassle. But we don't want to upset her, OR to cave in and take responsibility for something that is hers to deal with. We've composed a letter but I'd like to see how other people deal with it.

What would or did you do?

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Gentleness · 07/12/2010 12:36

How embarrassing - missing apostrophe in title...

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GreenButton · 07/12/2010 15:52

Bear Bear Bear

Pedant alert

montysorry · 07/12/2010 15:58

If it is definitely her sole responsibility and not a joint thing then (IMO) she needs to do something about it. I think you are being very generous offering to pay half and if she doesn't accept you need to explain that she leaves you no option other than to speak to the council about it.

I wouldn't pay then try to get her half back though as it simply won't happen. Show her 3 quotes, use the cheapest and ask for her half in advance.

Good luck

lalalonglegs · 07/12/2010 16:19

For #190, I would probably pay for it myself. She's never going to do it is she and it's cheaper than buying a new fence. If you are having loads of work done, it might be a sweetener for any inconvenience she has had to suffer due to noise/dust. To save face you could say that one of the labourers did it as a favour because you don't want to give the impression you will pay for it again. I'd insist that she pays for the weedkiller though.

Gentleness · 07/12/2010 17:47

Thanks. I do like the idea of allowing her to save face and us to not look like mugs to be taken advantage of! Sadly the workmen are gone now and I'm also a bit worried about going onto her property without permission.

And if she'll pay anything at all (haha) then we'll definitely ask for it in advance!

I called the council earlier and they said they would send someone out to assess the situation if we didn't get anywhere, but I really don't want to go that far. Neither do I want to pay it all though, so we're between a rock and hard place...

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activate · 07/12/2010 17:50

Tell her you really love gardening and you'd love to be able to do it but would she mind just providing the weedkiller cost and you'll sort out the rest as good neighbours should

Gentleness · 08/12/2010 19:57

Been thinking about this some more...

I'm really torn - paying the full whack ourselves would be tough right now - the money we have spare is all ear-marked for other things and I just don't see why we should pay (and wait for something else we'd planned on) just because she can't be bothered. But I don't want a neighbour alienated.

Sigh.

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mamatomany · 08/12/2010 22:25

This the trouble, we have a shared fence issue and unless we pay for it, we will continue to have an issue as next door couldn't care less it doesn't affect them at all.
And they know it, so we will pay [shrugs]

PaisleyLeaf · 08/12/2010 22:58

Can you fix some of that weed suppressant membrane to the fence?

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