Trouble making a decision...when do I know it's right?

[moomiemoo]

I am so and have a feeling I might be about to start rambling!

We've sold our house very quickly nearly at asking so have started to look around.

We did a second viewing on a house today. The living space is amazing - everything we could want for our family right now. And there's an extra room downstairs that we could/would use as an office/spare room.

The bedrooms are smallish and there's only three of them (we have 3 dd's 12 weeks, 2 and 4!). They're fine sharing rooms and we'd be happy for them to do that for the time being.

The street is nearly, nearly right. It's close to stuff we like, good primary schools and fantastic transport links. It's also got character (although is a slightly shabby way!).

We've accepted that we can't get a house for life right now so need a house that will do us for the next few years - this house will do just that. We could move in an start living.

The problem is that we made a mistake with our current house. I hated it and have only moved beyond that to tolerating it so am glad to get rid.

I think I don't trust myself...and don't want to make the wrong decision. How do I know that it's not the house but my confidence in myself that's making me uneasy.

Any advice???

If you imagine making an offer and not getting it how would that make you feel? If you would be really upset then it probably is the right one for you.

I wonder why did you hate your house? If you can describe reasons, and eliminate them in your next house, that would be great.
Also make a list of what are you looking for in a new house and tick boxes.
Also, I believe there should be a gut feeling that tells you what to do.
Before we bought our current house, we were rejected our offer on a perfect house, which I fell in love with instantly.
Then we bought a house that ticked all (most of all) boxes but I never really fell for it. It is OK but I will be keen to move in the future.

Thanks for the replies. I spoke to EA who said there was another 2nd viewing on Monday and that did make me panic slightly!

Just like you toja our current house ticked most of the boxes but I never fell for it. This house we rejected initially because it wasn't in exactly the right location but we both woke up 3 nights later imagining living in it! It does tick nearly every box...

I've booked to see it again tomorrow. We'll go as a family and see how it feels.

I think it's right isn't it?

We rejected our current house initially because it doesn't tick the boxes - but somehow when we were on holiday, we kept saying 'if there was a house like that nice one, but more xxx', and we realised that actually our theoretical necessities were not our actual necessities. As it is, we love the house, and have convinced ourselves that all the disadvantages are in fact subtle advantages that only we have recognised.

I hated our last house and was talked into buying it by DH. He lived to regret it as I never felt at home there and just nagged him to move all the time. Finally, after living there for six years, we sold it last year.

Like you we were determined not to make the same mistake twice. We viewed 38 houses and were under pressure as we had accepted an offer on ours the second day it was on the market. We saw lots of houses which ticked all our boxes but just didn't feel right. Finally we saw this one and just knew the minute we walked through the front door that it was the right one for us. I felt at home instantly. Go with your gut reaction and don't be afraid to view lots of houses!

Post a link to new house and let us decide for you!

There's hardly anything on the market which is part of the problem. The thought of renting a house and possibly moving twice fills me with dread with three small DDs.

Won't post a link to the new house as the pictures do not do it justice at all so think you'll all tell me it's rubbish!!!

What Evenstar says. If the idea of not getting it makes you very sad, it's the one.

We saw it again and we do love it!

Had our offer accepted so keeping fingers crossed that it all goes through.

Thanks for the advice .