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Can't get excited about perfect house

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fruitstick · 10/09/2010 21:59

We have put an offer in on a house. It's perfect, ticks all our boxes and is everything we are looking for ...... but I just can't get excited about it.

Trouble is, I'm just not sure whether it's because it's not right for us or whether I'm just so drained from the house buying process.

We have been renting for 18 months after our 'dream home' fell through at the last minute. We have offered on about 4 or 5 houses since then, been gazumped once.

I actually like the house we are renting and don't want to move. It's not our perfect house but is a walk to school, has potential and after 18 months feels like home.

But maybe I'm just being lazy and can't be arsed to move (I'm not someone who likes change).

We have offered to buy it but the landlord is deluded about it's value so I don't think we can.

With either house, I worry I'll regret the decision in a few years time.

I'm just so BORED with it all.

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feedthegoat · 10/09/2010 22:05

I know you probably want someone to come along and say it will all be okay after the move (and I hope it will ).

But presonally I wouldn't rush in if you are not absolutely sure. He did it 3 years ago. We wanted to move to a specific area and bought a house that ticked all the boxes and on paper is perfect.

But we didn't love it, even then. We are now just about to put it on the market again. We've given it our best shot, and 3 years, but it just doesn't feel like home. I underestimated how important that was going to be for me.

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fruitstick · 11/09/2010 12:39

Hmm, you're right it hasn't made me feel better

Just don't know what I think though. I need a house so I can stop all this

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BoBoo · 11/09/2010 15:33

We just found two houses that were on for the same price, similar size. One was a bit of a wreck, needed a new kitchen and bathroom, small garden. The other was immaculate, wouldn't have needed anything doing to it other than changes to make it to our taste and had a bigger garden. On paper the last one ticked all the boxes, but of course the wreck was the one we both loved.

I've been comparing it a bit to getting a boyfriend. Yes, someone might have good grades, jobs etc, be your 'type' but often not the guy you end up falling for. You're going to be spending a huge amount of money and I think you should expect to feel at least a little excited.

NoseyNooNoo · 11/09/2010 16:29

I'm so found somewhere that is perfect for you - woohoo!

You may remember me saying the same as you - the house we'd offered on (still haven't moved in btw due to 10 wks between exchange and completion) ticks all of the boxes but it doesn't 'sing' to me. People keep asking me whether I'm excited but it's been a hard slog (same timescale as you), the rental is perfectly nice and like you I'm bored/drained by the process.

However, we have done the right thing because it is the best we'll get for our budget, nothing at all has come on the market that we would have even wanted to view since we offered 4 months ago, and prices around here haven't budged.

If I remember correctly you were looking for a 4 bedroom detached house. At that level I don't think that there is much choice and it is up to you to breathe life into a house to make it your home. When you're buying a small flat there is lots of choice and within reason you can find your ideal.

I hope this house purchase works out for you. I don't think how you are feeling is outside the normal range after such a long search and purchases collapsing.

Best of Luck!

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fruitstick · 12/09/2010 09:54

Thanks nosey. They haven't even accepted our offer yet and it's been a week!

Good luck with your move though.

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fruitstick · 14/09/2010 12:53

Arrrgggggghhhhhhh

Went to see the house again this morning, decided I could get excited about it.

Increased our offer (first one rejected) and someone has come in with a matching offer but for cash

yuk yuk yuk yuk yuk

The agent is a nice old chap who says he would rather they accepted our offer but I'm not sure how much influence that has.

Why do I always do this to myself!

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NoseyNooNoo · 14/09/2010 18:10

Oh no! Who are these cash buyers that always seem to come in at the last moment. I hope it works out for you. I feel your pain and stress!

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fruitstick · 14/09/2010 23:00

They follow me around, waiting for me to finally get round to deciding I love a house enough to put in a sensible offer.

I honestly don't know why, in practice, a cash offer is better than a chain free but with mortgage offer but it feels like it should be somehow.

But you never know .....

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NoseyNooNoo · 15/09/2010 13:13

I suppose with a cash offer the bank can't decide that the house is not worth the price offered and a bank can't delay things by working slowly. However, is all of the cash liquidated and ready to go anyway? Often people say 'cash buyer' when they mean 'chain-free' anyway.

I know what you mean about feeling like they're following you around. How can so many people have that amount of cash stuffed in their back pocket?

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