Moving fears:Tell me to pull myself together

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We have not had much luck so far. Without going into too much back history, we have been let down by both potential buyers and seller and the whole trying to buy a new home process seems to have dragged on interminably.

We are now moving close to exchange again, but I have a real sense of doom. I feel sick if the EA phones as I am always expecting bad news. If I dont go to bed worrying about what else can go wrong, I wake up with that thought. I just want to bury my head in the sand and have someone tell me when its all done.

I know I have lost perpective and am being a bit pathetic - other people do this and cope. I just can shift the feeling that its all going to go wrong again.

Hi,

Buying a new home can be a daunting experience, I remember being beside myself with fret, when I was buying my new home.

The main thing is to stay calm and to remain optimistic, even though it can be quite challenging at times.

Have you thought about what you would like your new home to look like?
I found the moment I shifted my focus on to creating my perfect home ( Colour schemes, furnishing, ect) My stress levels decreased dramatically!

Perhaps you should try this?

Liz

Pull your self together. You have a home and family and most probably lots to look forward to. Be positive and if it ends in disappointment take it on the chin. There will be other opportunities so count your blessings.

Thanks Liz.

I am a bit scared to plan, as it feels like tempting fate.

I need to stop feeling so negative, but easier said than done at the moment.

Sorry, Chat - I wasnt ignoring you.
You are right - its not a big deal in the great scheme of things, and I shouldnt dwell. I do think I've had my share of house disappointments though, and just want to feel settled again after a year.

It will happen, hold onto that and each other! Best of luck. Make sure you do not get too tired and this stage so look after yourself.

I try and look at it like this - if a particular house falls through it's because that house wasn't meant for me, and there's a better one waiting just around the corner.

Or, 'what's fir ye'll no go by ye', as my granny used to say.

And it will be worth all the stress (ok, maybe not all, but some!) when you do get settled in a new home.