I have the house moving fear

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I'm moving on Wednesday and I have a constant refrain of 'Oh God what have I done' going through my head. Current house is a 3 bed 1930s detatched on the edge of a city (so city problems) next to a huge park. New house is a 1960s 4 bed (small rooms, few features)in a small and pretty town with good schools. I'm doing the move for the schools and the safer environment for my dc.

I have never lived out of a city, I love the huge park next to current house, I am scared that I have made a horrible mistake and that I will be miserable in the new place. Is this normal? How long did you take to adjust to somewhere new?

Hi, how is everyone feeling now on their house move? Or are there any mums on here that have felt severe anxiety about moving and now feel fine?
I’m currently in the process of moving to a new home that we are renovating and feel so scared, worried I’m doing the right thing, worried we will be able to afford it as it’s much bigger and a lot of work needs doing to it too. Can’t seem to shake the anxiety, struggling to eat, sleep and make any decisions. Any advice?

was so delighted to find this thread then realised it was so long ago. we've decided to take the plunge and move house. we live in a large housing estate that has become such a negative place yo raise children so we decided to move. rents in our city are way out of our budget so staying here is impossible so we ate moving to the country to a lovely village. my son is starting school so we feel it's the right time to move. I am just so anxious I have only moved once before from my parents to here and I raised my 3 children here and i slmost feel like im betraying them by leaving. I feel constantly sick. I do know we are doing this for the right reasons I just find it hard to make such huge decisions. I would love to know how you all got on or hear from someone going through the same

wow, great finding this thread. Moving the end of this month. Buying my first house with my girlfriend. Moving from SW London to SE London, and its really got me anxious. Its definitely down to changing areas, I've been renting in my flat for 17 years and I guess for all it faults its become my home. When we first put an offer in on this new place I was having panic attacks and severe anxiety. I went and saw a therapist which helped. I feel in a better place now but I'm still approaching this all with apprehension. I'm glad its not just me :)

Just wondered how everyone is getting on? We're moving soon - going through solicitor etc... bits now and I'm so scared I feel sick! DH keeps saying it's just me finding faults, but I keep feeling like we've made a big mistake and the house is not right (even though we both agreed we really liked it after viewing). Don't know whether I should listen to my gut, or push through as I've just got the house moving fear and it will turn out alright in the end? Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Hey everyone. So glad I've found you all. My landlord of 9 years I selling my house and we have had to find somewhere else. I've been so lucky I found a lovely 2 bed opposite my daughter's school and even closer to my family. I met the landlord who is lovely, putting in New carpets and painting and I couldn't have hoped for a better outcome. So why am I suffering from SEVERE anxiety and anxiety attacks where I feel I can't cope with how my body is making me feel. I haven't had my move date confirmed yet but reckon it'll be a month. I'm more scared of how I'm going to feel whilst packing....Will I have a total breakdown? My mum and my daughter looked around the house with me and we all know it's lovely. So why am I convincing myself I imagined it, that it's going to be awful and I've made the wrong decision? I'm thinking of going to wee my Dr this week for a chat and perhaps some medical support that can ease these symptoms and negative thoughts

How r u all doing? Some positive outcomes would really help me xx

I'm feeling the fear too!

We're in the process of buying a much bigger property that needs a ton of work doing. We are stretching ourselves financially to the limit just to buy the house, so nothing immediately left over to work on it, so it's going to take a lonnnnnnng time.

We are in a place that we have really outgrown, and the space of the new house will be amazing, but I have lived here 14 years, have done this place up over time and it is lovely/warm/cosy and home basically.

I know the move is a good thing long-term, but I also know I am going to probably sob when I move from here to the new house.

It's totally normal..moving house is very stressful and disorientating too, especially if you have lived somewhere for a long time.

Hey everyone!! I’m knew to mumsnet and SO glad I found this post!

I rented a flat for 6 years and just bought my first one myself - Moved in about 3 weeks ago and suddenly just got major anxiety about it! Every bump and noise I hear I’m FREAKING out and panicking I’ve made the wrong decision - I love it though it’s really nice so I guess it’s normal having this feeling?!!

Relieved to read this post. Am currently in the process of selling..& just had an offer accepted on a house to buy. But my anxiety is awful and I'm having regular panic attacks. GP has prescribed me some tablets to ease the symptoms but it's not working yet! I just regret ever putting our house up for sale and wish we was staying. The reasons for moving have changed and although we wanted somewhere bigger...since viewing houses in the area we want, we realised our house isn't that small after all! I've made a list of positives about the "new" house and we love the area it's a mile away from our current houses so not even far. I just cant relax about the thought of leaving this house. I thought it would be so exciting. I have told my husband so many times I want to pull out of selling, but he said when we move we will love it. I'm sure hes right but I just cant see that right now!
Reassuring to now that we are all in this together and it's not just me that feels this way! Good Luck to everyone!!

In a rather older vein, we're in the process of psyching ourselves into downsizing and have started looking at properties suitable for older (not ancient) couples, but they are all grim and pokey. I want fewer rooms but not smaller ones as DH is 6'5" (our rooms are big) and an easy garden, but I still want a large entertaining kitchen, a decent size sitting room and two big bedrooms, ideally with ensuite showers. Plus a double garage. This is not what developers are building. Also, we have a fabulous view, so we are working out where we compromise. Sadly, anything we like near the centre of a pleasant town is going to cost more than what we currently have. And everyone wonders what it will take to persuade people to move into sensible retirement houses to release family houses for younger people?

Moving this Friday! After 9 years here agree with many previous posters.. I'm more stressed and emotional than anything else even though we are upsizing and lots of positives. Myself and my dc are so emotionally bound to this home. And after 9 years the decor is perfect.

How are you all getting on ?

We've finally exchanged contracts and are moving a week on Friday.

I am excited, and know we need the room, but I am also so sad to be leaving our lovely maisonette . The garden has just started blooming with flowers and looking really nice, I was out there earlier trying to clear some old pots etc out, and I felt really sorrowful.

It's so nice and quiet here and we know all the neighbours..worrying that our new neighbours will be horrible/unfriendly/noisy etc...

Keep posting everyone...I shall update when we finally move!

I’m feeling the fear! Moving from a house soon that I loved but horrible neighbors and have felt quite unhappy here for about a year. Finally moving in a couple of weeks after looking for a long time. Not far away but not as nice a house. It all just feels like an anticlimax and I’m just worried I’ll still be unhappy there.

Hoping I’ll cheer up a bit after escaping horrible neighbors but still... it’s a of of stress and upheaval and expense.

I too am terrified so it’s so good to see others feel the same. I'm a lot older than most of you & didn’t realise I could join mumsnet as my daughter is grown up. I'm moving 200 miles away on my own and leaving lots of close friends. I was excited but now that it’s imminent I just feel scared and convinced I've made a horrible mistake. Be good to hear how you are all getting on.

Hi scardy Catt! I moved about 5 weeks ago and am as happy as Larry. Was anxious for a few weeks, it was a rough start, but have relaxed and know I’ve made the best move. Was classic cold feet! Good luck with your move.

Ps presuming you have good reason to move scardy Katy?

Thanks Hoopsmcann. The main reason is to be closer to my daughter. I am moving to a village about 10 miles from the town where she lives. I have moved quite a lot in the past but this time feels scary - leaving some close friends and an area I know well. Plus a lot older now. I was excited but now that it's close I just feel sick and anxious. What did you move to and why?

Hey, is anyone still following this thread? I have the panic too. We haven’t exchanged yet but I am dreading it. I keep thinking I want to pull out of the sale. I am most scared of not being able to come back to where we are? And things not being the same ever again.

I hear you. I can’t even list my house, but I’m desperate to move 😂

How did your move go?

Put mine up for sale in 2021, as soon as I got an offer I panicked and took it off the market. Still can't bring myself to move 😂