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Alleyn’s or JAGS

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SE3Mommy · 23/08/2025 04:23

Hello everyone,
Currently living in SE London, and thinking about secondary school for DD. We’d rather not move and it looks like Alleyn’s and JAGS are probably the two most academic independent schools locally. DD is doing well in her prep. We’ve attended open days in both schools and came out impressed each time. Main thing we wonder about is how much co-ed vs girls only makes a difference, and whether there are certain personality types who would do better in one school vs the other. Any insights from current parents would be most welcome.
Thank you!

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Radiatorvalves · 23/08/2025 08:41

I don’t have girls but have friends who have had girls at both. Those at alleyns seem happier while the one I’ve known at JAGS have wanted to leave after GCSE. I have heard that jags is fixated on academics to the detriment of sport, but think music and drama are good. However you’d be better talking to people who know the schools.

yellowspanner · 23/08/2025 17:34

DD at Alleyn's . Had a place at both but chose Alleyn's
Very happy there . Lots of sport, music and drama. Long lunch hour to give time for clubs . Friends at Jags says they want Alleyn's for 6th form

QuidFacere · 24/08/2025 01:47

Have two DDs in JAGS. They have different personalities but both adore it and have good groups of friends. Plenty of sport and music opportunities. Good pastoral care and SEN support.

I have my doubts about value for money every now and then, especially with the VAT, but don’t take for granted the fact that they are genuinely happy there.

Charlotte120221 · 24/08/2025 17:12

We had the choice and chose Alleyns.

its a bigger school and felt like it had better facilities. Thought an all girls school would just encourage dd to put more pressure on herself

Jags is a sporty school and gets great results, but a lot of girls leave for 6th form which can mean some options aren’t available

Alleyns on the other hand gets bigger in sixth form and offers a much bigger range of subjects

TheKhakiLurker · 03/10/2025 00:22

I have 2 girls in JAGS. They are both very different and are both thriving. There are enough girls in a year (c 120 per year group) for them to find their own tribe. Like everywhere else, you do have to do some co-curriculars to widen your circle. The school does mix them up in lessons and year groups, but the closest connections are usually forged outside the classrooms; in the back stage of a drama/dance production or on the field. Only because there’s not a lot of time to chat during lessons!

They do quite a few collaborations with Dulwich College(DC), but your experience with that one depends on the year groups, and who you meet at those collaborations.

We have found that whilst they are going through that phase of life, all girls school makes things more relaxed for the girls. I’m led to believe there’s more pressure to put on make-up every day in a co-ed school as they get older, but in a single-sex school, they’d only do it when there is a collab day with DC, for example.

We thought that when girls are at a sensitive age, the benefit of being in an all girls school means that they learn to be aware of their emotions and talk about their emotions more without fear of being judged or feeling conscious of how it looks with the boys. And it has proven to be right with both our girls, listening in to the conversations they have with their friends. So generally, you do end up with girls that are more in-tuned with their emotions and authentic/genuine in their communication, as they don’t feel they constantly have to appear a certain way in front of boys. And they have more fun, as they are still able to be girls, without trying to be a “young lady” too quickly (that will come, but being in an all girls school gives them more space).

Best thing to do if you are still undecided is to go to another Open Day, and see how you like the vibe. It’s exciting picking a new school! Good luck!

365sleepstogo · 03/10/2025 21:02

Have a child at both and they are very happy at their respective schools. Both have plenty of friends.
My DD found boys to be generally disruptive and they also took longer to settle down at the start of school lessons so she was pretty happy to leave them when she had the chance. That is not to say girls cannot be disruptive, it was just her personal experience at school.

Neither of them are interested in social media beyond WhatsApp and even then they don’t spend much time on it. None of them seem to be bothered about fashion labels or latest tech. BUT I would say part of it is down to their year group and friends they choose to keep and, unfortunately, those are things you have little control over.

I don’t think it is unusual to want to change schools at 6th forms especially if you are at single sex school - I don’t think that is necessarily a reflection of the school, itself. Having said that, it is probably not a bad thing to change school at this stage, especially if you have been there since the infants or juniors. It is good to push yourself out of your comfort zone, learn to adapt to a new environment, make friends again etc.

SWfam · 30/01/2026 18:39

I agree. I have a child at Oakfield and she is genuinely very happy there. I’ve also been really impressed with how the school has managed all the recent changes. It feels positive at the moment — yes, there is change afoot, but it’s clearly purposeful and, especially this term, very well communicated. As a parent, I feel reassured and supported.
With the full Alleyn’s community behind it, I’m confident we’ll see rapid and meaningful improvements. They are clearly invested in bringing the school up to a very high standard as soon as possible.

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