Are private schools still worth it?

[NeedyRubySheep]

We moved to Camberley, Surrey at the beginning of the school year, my 10-year-old is starting Y6 in September (state school). We´ve started to evaluate the choices for Y7 and are very much on the fence regarding state or private school. Based on your experience, do private schools still provide "an edge". The price tag is so big, that we are wondering if it´s worth it.
We are considering Wellington prep college, Hurst Lodge and LVS Ascot, any parents with children there?

For state school it´s definitely Tomlinscote, which is rated as outstanding. Any parents with children there? My kid had a tough time leaving his friends in his previous school, he doesn´t want to start over again in year 7 and most kids in his school will go probably continue at Tomlinscote.
We are getting so anxious about the decision.
Thank you!

I think it depends on your circumstances. We moved for outstanding primary then chose private for secondary as our nearest schools didn’t give the academic stretch, weren’t diverse, and the enrichment offer just didn’t compare. However my son will likely go to the local state sixth form colleges (ranked 9th and 12th in the uk respectively) as the teachers there are specialist in A-level only and their careers offer is better that the all through private that he currently attends.

luckily we can afford to do either but it’s about what’s right.

If you are in Surrey though I would veer towards private school or an outstanding state. Because the aspirational kids have either been taken by grammar or the private schools, and London schools are more underfunded than most (even though they get the most money).

There are really good state sixth form options in Surrey though post gcse. As all good sixth form is selective.

Your other option is tomlinscote with tuition and managing the enrichment yourself. If you have one child it’s doable.

My DC went to State school/college. They achieved the A stars they needed in their A levels to do the professional degree of their choice. However, we had no choice because we couldn’t afford the independent school fees. If I could and they hadn’t got the grades they needed I would always be wondering what if? It’s such a relief when they get to 18 and all their plans fall into place! I know the road ahead is still fraught with challenges but they are adult challenges and although as parents we will be on hand to support them it feels different.

Ask yourself this. Can you live with the what if for the next 6 to 8 years?

I have nothing but good things to say about the State system in our area but, I had no choice.

For our daughter, from Y7 up? Absolutely, without question. She is happy and thriving and achieving, and being stretched. But the absolute impact of her current school is not in academia but in the interest the teachers take in the pupils. FAR more than in her state middle school, where she was bored, had far fewer opportunities, and very little input from teachers as she was quiet, well-behaved and got on with things.
But she was also only surviving there.
I don't think that private primary would have been worth it - her first school was very good, and her middle school did teach her how to get on with a big mix of people, avoid trouble, cope with peer pressure etc.
We don't care where or if she goes to uni. We don't care what she wants to be when she grows up. We care that she is happy and confident, and has options open to her.

Totally depends on your child and the schools.

What I would say is you seem to be thinking about the (potential) advantage being better grades, better uni place.

My kids are at private school and most of our relatives and friends’ kids are also (various privates across the country). I think “better grades” was only a factor for a few of them - for the vast majority of the private school parents that I know it’s more about pastoral support, SEN support, wrap around care, behavior in classes, or access to particular resources or training for sports and other extra-curriculars.

If those things aren’t relevant or important to you then it’s probably not worthwhile.