Hi I have a quite unique situation with my teen (13) - she had a brother but devastatingly he died suddenly when she was 11 and she was there when it happened. She was in a large state school at the time but after my son's death she struggled, and they struggled to offer her the ongoing support she needed. I have therefore started to consider going down the private route. She is bright but not very sporty (although loves climbing and anything heights related!) and is not particularly bothered about academics but is someone who wants to do well (not sure if that makes sense!). She has always lacked confidence and has become even less confident since her brother's death.
I am looking at a fresh start in Dorset to be near family (I am a single parent) and near to the coast. I have been quickly looking at the various schools available - and I will go and see a number to get a feel for them, but I wondered if there are any that I should definitely avoid. Very academic schools are probably out given the level of stress that would place on her and her being particularly fragile. Very sporty ones too are also probably off the list.
I realise this may be a big ask, I am just trying to garner some general feedback so I can consider next steps. I ask that people don't judge me for doing this, this has been the most tragic of events for our little family and I am trying the best I can to make my daughter's life more bearable.