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have I been a bit naughty?

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roadkillbunny · 08/07/2010 23:20

feeling a little bad and wondering if I have done the right thing, it's not really an important issue in the grand scheme of things but is now playing on my mind, the situation is this, Ours is a small village primary school, my daughter is in the foundation class. Next week is the school play, foundation do not take part in the play as quite rightly it is too much for 5 year olds to do the two evening performances. Due to lack of space in the school hall and fire regs tickets are limited to 2 per family and any left over are offered to those who have expressed an interest from the classes who are the main part of the play. Even though I only have one child in the school at this time and she is in foundation so not taking part I still have a ticket allocation. I was not planning on going as my child is not in it so when one of the other Mums in dd class who also has a child further up the school asked if she could have my tickets as her older child has a speaking part I said yes straight away. The other Mum gave my the money and I requested the tickets with my form in my name. That day at pick up dd teacher told me that the secretary had told her I had requested tickets and the teacher asked me to confirm I knew my dd was not in the play. I said that I knew dd was not in the play and left it at that but now I am starting to feel a bit edgy about my 'decit' and wondering it it was the right thing to do or not, my first thought was that it was my ticket allocation to do with what I saw fit and the Mum who I am giving my tickets to would probably have got her extra tickets any way once all orders were in and they could see how many extras they had given the her older dd has a main part (the extra tickets are so her 18 year old dd and the children's grandfather can go as well as the parents) but then I got thinking about how not all the people who's children have a main part would know all the foundation parents who don't have older children to ask for their tickets and that makes it unfair! I know this is really small fry and probably I am way over thinking things but I have started to feel like I am lieing to the school and I not a person who ever really lies (and if for some reason I do try I am completely see through lol!) and it's making me feel uncomfortable (but not to the point I would tell the other mum she couldn't have my tickets, I would feel even worse if I went back on my word!), I just wanted to know what other people thought and what they would do. Sorry for the long rambling explanation couldn't seem to get it any shorter, sorry!

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piprabbit · 08/07/2010 23:26

Really don't understand why Foundation are excluded from the play. DDs foundation year were included in the nativity play 3.5 months after they started school...evening performances, major parts and everything. It all went swimmingly and made the children feel part of the school community.

So far you have not lied to the school, if anyone official asks you about the incident, fess up and say you didnt realise it would be an issue. What are they going to do to you?

Kbear · 08/07/2010 23:26

two tickets allocated. two bums on seats, doesn't matter who they are.

school won't care

bless yer heart for worrying but let it go!

ninah · 08/07/2010 23:27

Well they will know you have tickets and see you are not there - it's a village! doubt anyone will say anything to your face though

TidyBush · 08/07/2010 23:35

Why give a ticket allocation to reception parents if they don't think they would attend? It would make more sense to offer the spare tickets (out of a hat?)to parents who've got children in the play.

Don't worry about it Kbear summed it up well.

Lougle · 08/07/2010 23:40

I think you have, really. This mum has bypassed the established system by 'bagging' your tickets, instead of waiting like all the other parents. The system the school has is a fair one, and your agreement to purchase tickets that you have no intention of using is unfair.

What it means is that a parent who has less contacts loses out.

chixinthestix · 08/07/2010 23:40

Don't worry about it. For Xmas plays at our school everyone swaps around tickets according to who's in which performance and when family members can make it etc. I always end up with extra tickets as I live along way from other family and always give them away to friends.

If they didn't want you to take the tickets why give a ticket allocation to families whose DCs aren't in the play?

roadkillbunny · 09/07/2010 00:09

I know I am over thinking and I know I have been a bit naughty as Lougle says, other parents who don't know all the foundation parents don't have the same opportunity although I know that at the end of the day all who want tickets will get them, have never known anyone moan they didn't get tickets they wanted when they had a child with a main part. Yes as ninah says they will know come Monday night that my tickets were not for me as i wont be there and its a small village and a small school but I doubt at that point any one will care much, it's just me feeling bad!
Non of us foundation parents have any problem with our children not being in the play, last year was the first year of foundation not doing the school plays, it had proved difficult in previous years with over tired children for a week and all they would be doing would be singing with all the other children without a main part (ie most of them!) as it's a whole school production only a small number can have a main part, it's the way it goes with small schools, foundation had their own nativity play which was nice as we didn't lose them in with the other 100 children in the school. Foundation are very much included in school life (one of the pints in our outstanding in all areas offsted) in fact not being included in the play is for the children's benefit, including them would be solely for the parents benefit and I can't see how that would be right, any way I digress, the over all opinion seems to be yes, a bit naughty but nothing to lose sleep over, thank you for the support and quick response, much appreciated!

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