Quick question for teachers/TAs - need answer before 6pm tonight!

[racingheart]

Hi,

My son was very upset by something that happened today and though I chatted with the teacher about it I found out a lot more from him after we got home. It's school open evening tonight, so there's a chance to explain what uoset him. I was going to hand her a note, as I didn't want to hog her time when there are loads of other people around, but OH says this is way too formal and makes too big a deal of it, which I don't want. (Lovely teacher, don't want to annoy her but it's delicate as son was very very upset by something she said to him.)

What would you prefer? Someone dropping you a note to read at your convenience or someone catching yo for a chat on a busy evening?

Personally, I would book an appointment to see her after school the following day when you and she have more time.

I would rather someone spoke to me rather than handing me a note.

I am a teacher. I think Greenshadow is right. Notes aren't good and can be a little passive aggressive - basically, however nicely you phrase it (and I'm sure you would) you are making a complaint without allowing the teacher to give their side of the story. Also, I think you are being sensible not wanting to 'hog' the teacher. Book an appointment for the next day, could even be 10 mins before school if you want to speak to her before she has your son for the next day.

Agreed, would rather you spoke to me. And I would want to know!

KitKatKittens, I tend to use notes quite a lot because I find that when I only have a very short space of time to say what I need to say in a situation where I'm also a bit paranoid about the other mums being within hearing distance, I get all muddled up and everything comes out wrong (English is not my first language) and usually spend the little time I have correcting myself.I never thought my notes could be seen as passive-aggressive; that worries me. I felt they gave me the opportunity to really measure what I was saying and select the right words. I usually end my notes saying something like 'I'm available to discuss further whenever convenient for you'; I also try to hand-write them so that they don't look too formal. Now I don't know...

Make an appointment to see her.Open evening isn't the time for a chat and slipping her a note just seems a bit weird

Thanks for advice. Am going to see her. She's really nice so I didn't want to be the parent from hell.

Just as an extra - one of our YR teachers was asked after an assembly, if she'd recieved 'a note'. She hadn't, but then went ot seek it out. It was a complaint about several things that could have been dealt with quickly in a conversation (after the assembly!).

This makes teachers cross and mummies cross because they don't get the required answers.

Just TALK to the teacher!

How do you mean?