My daughters olny friend is leaving the school, what are the chances of my daughter getting in at her new school ?

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my daughter is in the reception class of a private primary school. She has some SEN's and has found it hard to make friends. She does have one very close friend who has an older brother with similar needs to my daughter, so she understands her. My daughter is her only real friend too.
This little girl is changing schools soon and I'm going to be taking my daughter out too as I don't feel the school is going to be right for her as she goes into year 1.
I'm going to see what school this little girl gets into, then put my daughters name on the waiting list. Her mum has chosen 3 schools that we'd be very happy with too.
I'm not sure what the chances are of them getting into the same school, and how long we'd have to wait for a place?
I really get on with her mum too, so it'd be a real shame for all of us if they couldn't stay together.
I know if my daughter had a statement of SEN's she could go to any school we wanted, but she dosn't yet have one. I would need to get her one when she starts her new school, but the private school won't support it, as they don't take children with statements. Would she be more likely to get a place at our chosen school if we told them that we'd get her a statement?

From a purely practical point of view, have you actually given notice at your current school? Surely you will need notice to avoid being liable for a term's fees?

From every other point of view, you have spent a long time agonising over what might be the most appropriate school for your daughter and many people have given you good advice over the years. You always seem to come down in favour of the current school although several posters have advised that your daughter's SN might be better catered for in a state school. Only a couple of weeks ago, you were worried about the next term's fees and moving your daughter didn't seem to be high on the agenda then. It seems particularly unusual therefore that you are now considering it on the basis of your daughter's friend moving school and not only that but you will move her to whichever school her friend ends up at. What will happen if her friend moves a term, or maybe even two, before your daughter gets a place, and when she turns up she finds that her friend has a whole new group of friends and a new "best friend"?

Thanks everyone. Lots of things to concider. I have now been given a perminant contract at work, so the fee's are no longer a worry. Although there isn't much left after that.
I've been thinking about moving her for ages now. The things that prevented me were, the small class and the nice children, but to be honest she is only really friends with this one girl.
Recently Lucy has been telling me that the other girls pick on her and her friend. They have been split up in class for talking too much, and apparently the other girls tease them about it. I overheard one little girl at a party trying to out witt Lucy and make her look silly in front of the others, then laughing.
With this in mind, I'm not so bothered about keeping her there any more. I suppose I thought keeping her there would protect her from all of this, especially as they've known her since they were 2 years old.
Lucy is extreamly loyal to her friends, once she's made a good friend she dosn't forget them. One little girl left 18 months ago and Lucy still talks about her often.
I think if we can stay in contact after school etc, it'll be o.k. Like someone said, they might not even be in the same class.
I also think it'd be harder for Lucy if her friend made a new best friend, then Lucy was at the same school, but out of school it wouldn't matter.
I'll have to put her name down on a few waiting lists anyway and see what happens.
Thanks everyone.

The exact same thing happened to me and my best friend too. We were at a private primary school together, then we both moved to a new school at roughly the same time and carried on being friends. We are still best friends now. I know it dosn't always go that way, but it's probubly why I thought the same would happen to the girls.