Dd's teacher (y2) asked to speak to me after school on thursday.
It transpired that at carpet time dd had been asked by a child to sit next to her and dd said "no I don't want to sit next to you" in an unkind tone (according to teacher)
Teacher then proceeded to tell me that the day previous dd and my child had been the best of friends and she felt that dd was being devious and using this child for her own ends because this child had voted for dd in some election.
So teacher had told this other child to remember how dd had behaved and bear it in mind next time.
Teacher told me this with dd in such a way that dd was told off all over again with an audience of children as well as having been placed on the sad face for the day.
Dd has no behavioural problems, she does have a statement and she does have autism so my feeling is that it was a very trivial offence to be called in over, the teacher has read far more into dd's tone than was meant,teacher has accredited dd with the social deviousness of a politician when she has recognised and diagnosed deficits in this area, dd didn't need reprimanding twice for the same thing and given her social and communication difficulties it should have been addressed as a difficulty rather than a behavioural issue?
Am I being PFB (bearing in mind she is my fifth) and is it unreasonable to expect the teacher to respond to my letter detailing my concerns? (I couldn't chat at the time because dd is very anxious and if she saw me chatting she would assume she was in trouble again)Teacher pointedly ignored on Friday me so if I don't get a response would I be unreasonable to forward a copy of letter to the headteacher?
Thanks in advance