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Ds 5 home with a black eye today grrrr

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lilacclaire · 13/05/2010 19:39

My ds in P1, one of the youngest in his class.

Phone call at lunch time to say that he had bumped his head but was fine.

Picked him up and he had a swollen black eye!

He told me that he was playing with another boy, when a bigger boy in the class banged their heads together.

This 'bigger' boy apparantly pushed ds off his chair in the dinner hall and according to ds pushes him around quite a bit at break times etc.

I had gone into the school on tues and spoke to the teacher as ds had said that because of the pushing around he wasn't able to play with the other boys in his class and either spent lunchtimes on his own or his cousin comes round from the other playground to play with him.who said she would make sure they were monitered outside, apparantly yesterday they were fine and now this.

There is definetly more to this as ds did not want to go to this boys birthday party at the start of month (you usually just have to say party to ds and he's really excited).

Im absolutely fuming that my 5 year old has a black eye, I of course went back into the school and the teacher said that she would have a word with the boy tommorow (after prompting from me to have a word with him).

Im planning on going in to see if I can see the head teacher tommorow.

Any tips on the most effective thing to say, because the mood im in right now, it may not be very constructive..........

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lilacclaire · 13/05/2010 19:40

sorry if it doesnt all make sense, not thinking straight, but you get the gist!

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admission · 13/05/2010 20:34

Yes, what you clearly already realise and that is be calm.
I would refrain from taking sides because it is possible that your son is involved in being "naughty" as well. Simply ask the headteacher to get to the botom of why there seems to be some problems between your son and this other boy. In effect mark the Head's card that no more will be tolerated.

SE13Mummy · 13/05/2010 22:48

As a teacher (who happens to also have a Reception child of my own) I'd say that you've done the right things so far and that I'm sure the school will appreciate you taking the time to think this through instead of charging in whilst fuming....

When you see the Head tomorrow take with you a written record of the incidents your son has told you about and a summary of the conversations you've had with his teacher.

Explain to the Head that you appreciate that your DS may not be telling you the full story but that you would like some reassurance that this is being dealt with. Ask the Head to clarify for you how the lunchtimes are supervised and if it would be possible for the mealtime supervisors to be asked to keep an eye out for your son/encourage him to play with different children as you're worried that he feels isolated in the playground.

Be as calm and reasonable as possible but put the ball in the Head's court (and provide an e-mail address so s/he can get back to you nice and quickly).

lilacclaire · 13/05/2010 23:18

Thanks will write things down so I don't miss anything.
Will do my best to stay calm, I just really want action/better supervision, its as if this boy is trying to exclude my ds from the group.

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